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DD 14 is self-harming, having panic attacks but won`t talk to me. what can I do?

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Tamsworth17 Thu 16-Feb-17 13:51:51

I feel so sad, helpless, desperate even. DD has had a hard year, she started being physically violent to us about a year ago. She went to therapy and the violence stopped. But the communication has all but disappeared between us.

Just before Christmas we found out she was self harming . It wasn`t obvious at first because she was bruising herself, she didn`t explain to school and school informed social services.

Anyway, it`s now clear it`s self harm as she is cutting herself. She has also been put on ADs. But she won´t talk to us (DH and I) about anything. We have tried to open up lines of communication but they all get shut down.

This morning she had a panic attack at school, was taken to hospital by teacher (she refused to let me pick her up and take her to the hospital). I met them at the hospital where she really didn´t want to talk to me, asked me to leave so she could talk to the teacher. I felt dismissed. She´s now gone to a friend`s house - dr said it was fine and probably best way for her to recover.

I feel so cut out and helpless. And scared of where this will all end. I don`t know what to do, or if we are the right ones to be caring for her at this point. I don´t know how to support her - when all my attempts are rejected.

I don`t know what to do with my jumbled up feelings of rejection, hurt, sadness.

Stopmakingsense Fri 17-Feb-17 21:19:41

That sounds awful for you. Can you get any help - for you to help you through this time, and also for someone to help you with the best approach? Maybe a psychologist who has experience with adolescents?
Wishing you all the best

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