I feel so sad, helpless, desperate even. DD has had a hard year, she started being physically violent to us about a year ago. She went to therapy and the violence stopped. But the communication has all but disappeared between us.
Just before Christmas we found out she was self harming . It wasn`t obvious at first because she was bruising herself, she didn`t explain to school and school informed social services.
Anyway, it`s now clear it`s self harm as she is cutting herself. She has also been put on ADs. But she won´t talk to us (DH and I) about anything. We have tried to open up lines of communication but they all get shut down.
This morning she had a panic attack at school, was taken to hospital by teacher (she refused to let me pick her up and take her to the hospital). I met them at the hospital where she really didn´t want to talk to me, asked me to leave so she could talk to the teacher. I felt dismissed. She´s now gone to a friend`s house - dr said it was fine and probably best way for her to recover.
I feel so cut out and helpless. And scared of where this will all end. I don`t know what to do, or if we are the right ones to be caring for her at this point. I don´t know how to support her - when all my attempts are rejected.
I don`t know what to do with my jumbled up feelings of rejection, hurt, sadness.
That sounds awful for you. Can you get any help - for you to help you through this time, and also for someone to help you with the best approach? Maybe a psychologist who has experience with adolescents? Wishing you all the best