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Dd, girlfriend & sleepover ..

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turtleinthesky Wed 15-Feb-17 23:49:57

Dd , just 15, recently told us she was dating a girl , bit of a surprise but got our heads round that . Now she is mad that we won't agree to a sleepover with girlfriend ( 14, nearly 15) , she can't see what I'm worried about happening , sees it just the same as a sleepover with other female friends. But we wouldn't agree if it was a boyfriend at this age so I don't see why we would treat it differently . I explained that I didn't think they shouldn't be a situation they may not be emotionally ready for, I am right aren't I ? She makes me sound so unreasonable !!

BitOfFun Wed 15-Feb-17 23:50:43

Of course you are right.

Rainbowqueeen Wed 15-Feb-17 23:51:08

Stick to your guns

turtleinthesky Wed 15-Feb-17 23:53:11

Phew .. they do manage to make you feel like you're completely mad sometimes 😁

TyneTeas Thu 16-Feb-17 00:09:45

I don't disagree at all but I'd perhaps also be considering how I might handle future sleepover requests too, because unless you intend to stop all sleepovers (which would quite harsh), the easy workaround for a determined 15year old would just be to not announce any future girlfriend as a girlfriend to access sleepover opportunity

BitOfFun Thu 16-Feb-17 01:02:51

Sleepovers aren't necessarily a feature of later teenage life- I did the odd one for my eldest before secondary school, but I don't remember any after that. There might be the odd night after a big event that a group of them might stay at somebody's house, but I can't really think why you'd need just one pal staying over. I'd put the kibosh on them altogether, to be honest. You don't have to announce the new policy: just make it so that they don't happen.

misshelena Thu 16-Feb-17 03:32:11

You are right. I would just say no to all one-pal sleepovers of either sex.

turtleinthesky Thu 16-Feb-17 18:32:39

Thank you, she does still do sleepovers , seems to be her thing more than parties ! I had thought of the possibility she may not tell me on the future if a friend is a girlfriend ... will have to cross that bridge when I come to it !!

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