We moved our DD schools last June as she was being bullied through no fault of her own (she spoke to one of her friends ex boyfriends, pathetic I know!) and it went on for 6 months. School made it 10x worse and her education suffered as a result as they failed to help her properly.
She's settled remarkably well at her new school, her grades are fab and she's had no issues whatsoever. She's super friendly so gets on with everyone she meets.
But I'm concerned as she doesn't seem to know where she really fits in. Just recently she's been hanging around with a crowd who are doing well at school and I thought brill! Just the type of girls my daughter needs in her life.
The problem is though, she's nothing like them. The differences being that my daughter is outgoing and likes to go places but they aren't allowed. For example they have to be in no later than 5pm and at weekends they all work or stay home. Which isn't a bad thing at all but I'm a firm believer in kids being allowed to be kids and going places with their friends, meeting new people etc.
Just recently she's been complaining that she's bored as she's forever stuck in the house and that she's got nobody to go out with. She has said that these group of girls 'aren't for her' . She wants to do well at school but she's missing the social side of life too and it's really worrying me.
On the flip side, she has friends who DO go out but they're all drinking, smoking, having sex etc. They are allowed out til all hours, getting excluded from school. So she doesn't want to go out with them (can't blame her!) as she doesn't want to go down that route.
She's finding it a struggle to get the balance right and meet people who are like her. She's moving from one group to another then another and while she has got friends, non of them seem to have the same mind set as her and I'm scared she'll end up lonely :(
It's hard enough these days to fit in and she's floating between friendship groups all the time. I know she'll find friends like her eventually but she's not putting herself out there. People have asked her to go out and she's said no for one reason or another. She said she doesn't want to hang around with Joe bloggs because they do this and that but at the same time she's complaining she's completely bored out of her brains. Her Dad and I told her she needs to go out at some point as if she keeps turning folk down then they'll stop asking.
What do I do?
Any advice appreciated. Thank you.
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Lanny81 · 09/02/2017 12:24
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