Talk

Advanced search

DD has been sending rude snapchat photos, WWYD?

(49 Posts)
BigSandyBalls2015 Fri 13-Jan-17 11:14:24

DD is nearly 16 and left her snapchat open on my iPad last night. I prob shouldn't have looked but I've had my suspicions and sure enough she's been sending inappropriate photos to boys, one in particular.

Most of them are close up of her bum, still in pants though, leaning over etc, another of her boobs. I'm so disappointed as we've had several chats about this sort of thing.

So what do I do? Admit I snooped? Have another 'general' chat?

Bluntness100 Fri 13-Jan-17 11:16:53

Oh you need to talk to her about that. Those photos could end up anywhere, at best shared amongst the boys at school. She needs to learn about self respect and not doing this. She's obviously just immature and easily led, but this is so far from ok it far outweighs the snooping issue.

BigSandyBalls2015 Fri 13-Jan-17 11:36:42

That's my gut feeling too. Silly girl, this has really upset me.

MrsJayy Fri 13-Jan-17 11:39:52

Oh no you are going to have to say something to her I think, they could end up all round school and depending on the pictures they could be illegal images because she is only 15.

JennyOnAPlate Fri 13-Jan-17 11:42:45

Oh op this could get messy...she'll be mortified that you've seen the pictures flowers

I think you're going to have to tell her that you've seen them and go from there. The boy is probably showing them to all his mates.

MrsJayy Fri 13-Jan-17 11:45:04

She is going to be mortified and will be furious try and stay calm and choose words carefully you dont want her to feel ashamed .

DearMrDilkington Fri 13-Jan-17 11:45:37

I'd possibly let the school know as well so they can have a talk with the whole year in an assembly reminding pupils about being safe online. You don't have to say your dd was sending photos just say you found out a different way if you wish to keep it private.

She won't be the only one doing it.

JustSpeakSense Fri 13-Jan-17 11:50:06

I'd tell her what you found and remove Snapchat
From her for a period of time (3 months)

Aquamarine1029 Fri 13-Jan-17 16:27:52

It's time to bring the hammer down. She may be 16 but she's still a child. She obviously has no clue as to how much damage can be done by sending pictures like this.

frenchfancy Fri 13-Jan-17 18:05:23

Screen shot. Print out and ask her if she wants you to show them to your neighbour, her teacher, her boss(if she has one). Point out that if you can do that so can anyone else.

Bluntness100 Fri 13-Jan-17 18:08:04

>>carefully you dont want her to feel ashamed<<

Why not, if she feels ashamed she is less likely to do it again.

ChocoChou Fri 13-Jan-17 18:08:59

I thought snapchat deleted the pics straight away? I've never been able to re-look at the pics I've sent..

You need to talk to her, she is putting herself in danger, but you know this. Good luck flowers

AndNowItsSeven Fri 13-Jan-17 18:11:14

Photographs are classed as indecent images of children at ages 16 and 17 now as well as 15. Your dd could technically be charged with distributing such images even if they are of herself. It's unlikely but she is committing an offence.

mrsC4 Fri 13-Jan-17 18:12:33

Snapchats are available to view at a later date? Was this on her snapchat story?

5notrumps Fri 13-Jan-17 18:25:15

You can screen shot a snap chat image which means you can keep it. That's what all the kids do with dodgy pictures. A lot of kids have been caught out in that way.

MrsJayy Fri 13-Jan-17 18:28:55

Is it under 18 for images i thought it was 16.

ChocoChou Fri 13-Jan-17 18:30:09

5notrumps

I understand if you receive a snapchat you can screenshot it and keep it.
But (from what I know, i may be wrong) you can't look back on the snaps that you have sent which is why I'm a bit confused as to how OP has seen them.
Unless DD has been screenshotting her own snapchats....??

5notrumps Fri 13-Jan-17 18:33:58

Choco: Oh, sorry, misunderstood. You are right. That is odd. confused

AthenasOwl Fri 13-Jan-17 18:34:46

You can save your own snapchats without having to screenshot them. Snapchat has a new memories feature as well which allows all pictures taken with the Snapchat camera to be saved in one place, doesn't mean they are being sent. Anything you send gets deleted by the other person unless they screenshot and you get a notification if someone has done this.

Gooseberryfools Fri 13-Jan-17 18:38:18

Tell her to only send snaps that she would be happy to show her Gran.

Or if you hunt enough on you will probably find a film about photos spreading/ruining lives

AndNowItsSeven Fri 13-Jan-17 18:38:38

It used to be under 16's Mrs Jay it was changed to under 18's.

Gooseberryfools Fri 13-Jan-17 18:39:11

I would talk to the school because this is the sort of issue that needs to be covered in pse

AndNowItsSeven Fri 13-Jan-17 18:41:03

If it’s a sexually explicit image of a child (under 18 years of age):

If so, you should contact local police on 101 for advice and guidance. Do not delete the image and under no circumstances should you save the image, send it to another person or show it to anyone else as you may be committing an offence.

AndNowItsSeven Fri 13-Jan-17 18:41:25

Sorry that the above was from an information poster.

AndNowItsSeven Fri 13-Jan-17 18:42:13

This depends on what the image is or what the chat involves and who it is sent between. However, it is a crime to possess, take, make, distribute or show anyone an indecent or abuse image of a child or young person under 18 years of age. Always remember that, while the age of consent is 16, the relevant age in relation to indecent images is 18.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now