Just looking for some mummy back up. My DS 16 lives with me and his sister 11. Dad and I are divorced and it's not even close to amicable. DS went off the rails in Easter hols ( stating out late / drinking/ taking or smoking drugs /not coming home etc) was given the choice to stick by my house rules or take his chances at his dad's - he bailed to his dad's for 6 months. While there he was left to his own devices while dad partied with current lady friend so at 15 ( at that time ) he was totally unpatented. (During this time DS refused any contact with me and his sister). Long story short - turns out his dad threw him out about a month before I got him home and he was sofa surfing at a friends house. His dad didn't think to let me know 😕
Fast forward 2 months - school hols and he is partying again - last night sent me a text to say he would be rocking home sometime after 1am and to leave a key under a plant pot 😠. I told him no chance and if he wanted to stay out that late then he should stay with whatever "friend" he was with. So he calls "loving " dad who rides in to rescue him. Today he rocks home yells " my bad " in my general direction followed by telling me that he and his dad were laughing at me for being so " immature ". That i am the worst mum ever and a " nutter ".So now he has been given 11.30 curfew and no privileges ( it's now his B&B if he treats it like that these are the consequences. I have taken his phone away at the moment until he learns some respect. Am I the only person in the world to expect a 16 yr old to be respectful and enforce consequences (curfew and phone) for disrespect ??
Apparently in the 16 yr old world it's only me that does that ??
TBF I did tell him that as he is 16 he is free to leave and get himself a flat thus avoiding mu house rules.
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catandmouse2 · 29/12/2016 16:44
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