DS (17) and DD (14) are very close and always have been quite close. Sadly, DD (14) is being treated for anorexia at an eating disorder clinic and has been there for 3 weeks. However she came home on Friday at around 5pm and we are dropping her back there tommorow morning. DH thinks it's just because he's close to DD and thinks I'm overreacting but DS became very upset this afternoon and kept pulling DD to one side to talk to her i suppose but shortly after he'd spoken to her they wondered off. I assumed they'd one to sit in the playroom with the younger ones or the lounge to chat or watch tv but when I went to find them both around an hour later I found them on DS's bed. They were lying next to each other and watching a film which isn't anything new as this has happened atleast three or four times before. What I can't get my head around is why DS suddenly locked the door and called out 'I'll be down in 5 mins' when he heard me call his name, I don't understand why he did that which makes me feel like something was happening that he didn't want me to know about. Is this type of clingey/controlling behaviour unusual in an older teenage boy?
I don't know whether I should be concerned or not as he spent a lot of time being really upset around her at any mention of her going back.
He tries to steer DD away from her other brother and younger siblings. I'm wondering if anyone could suggest reasons to perhaps why he is acting like he is?
Thanks for reading and sorry it's so long!
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Lifeisshort123 · 11/12/2016 22:45
Maybe they were talking about her condition and didn't want to be interrupted - it could be that she opens up to him and he was worried she would retreat into herself if someone came in the room? It's difficult to tell but it sounds as though he is just really protective. I hope she is responding well to her therapy 
It's awful to assume that something negative may have happened but I do have really bad instincts not that anything serious happened but that he might be controlling her and telling her what she can and can't do which obviously isn't ideal especially as she is barely with us anymore. I don't think I'm going to say anything to DS considering he was generally upset about DD leaving once again but I'm defentitly going to maybe drop a few hints that if she wants more space she should come talk to me ect ect. Thanks for your reply.
I hope I can talk to her when DS isn't there, I hope things between them are alright. 
Unfortantly I can only put it down to bullying throughout school life, DS understands what anorexia is but because DD doesn't 'not eat' he doesn't think she should be in an eating disorder clinic and thinks I'm cruel for sending her to one even though her BMI is 16 and used to be 23 a few months ago. They have always been close but I'd say DS has been quite overprotective of her when she got to 11/12. They've always been close but never crazy close but I'd say in the past 2-3yrs they have created a very strong relationship. DS doesn't currently have a GF but he's a good looking lad who's never been short of female attention and has had atleast 3 girlfriends, two of which lasted longer than 6 months. He hasn't had a girlfriend for 5 months now as he split up with his ex as he was cheated on.
DS is well mannered, well behaved and not overly confident but not painfully shy. He's currently in college and was good all throughout his school life. He doesn't smoke and only drinks on nights out. He likes to please though which I think may be part of the problem of him being so overly attached to DD. When he was younger he always wanted to be the 'best' big brother. Thanks for your reply.
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