And I feel awful but I am at the end of my tether with her vileness...
I do love her, of course I do. And tell her every day. When she is in a reasonable mood we get on ok, go shopping, watch tv, have lunch out, etc.
But the mornings are awful. She is in year eleven so I get it's stressful. She hates school, there are bitchy girls in her class who are low level nasty.....but not anything the school are interested in. Dd is on a waiting list for counselling with school as she gets down about it. Ive done all the positive chats, etc. She will be moving school after her gcses.
So every morning I get tears of not wanting to go to school. I'm in and out her room for ages nagging her to get up. Calm and firm initially that she has to go yo school. This often deteriorates into her starting full on screaming, worse than any toddler tantrum. Snot, tears, screaming but then when I start telling her off she says she's in pain. Starts clutching her chest, curled in a ball and screams and screams and screams. I don't believe she's in pain as it comes on and off like flicking a switch. She has been to the drs numerous times and they can't find anything wrong and mutter that sometimes teenagers get unexplained pain or growing pain. Of course she fixes on this to say the drs say it's real. But it's funny it only happens in the morning when the school refusal is an issue.
So this morning I try being firm but sympathetic. I give her a painkiller, I'm called a cunt and a bitch. The screaming carry on. I tell her to sit up because being curled in a ball will make it worse. Inget screamed at that I'm a fat cunt who knows nothing. So by now I'm losing my temper and shouting back.
Dh is useless, just yells me yo stop shouting at dd that I'm making it worse. Logically I know he's right but her negative, defeatist attitude is wearing me down. I'm seriously thinking of sending her to boarding school in Sept. partly because I think she needs to grow up but also because I just can't stand her when she's like this. I'm hoping a new school will improve things but am worried it will be the same.
The other thing I'm thinking about is pulling her out of school now which she would be delighted about. Putting her in a different school in town, but am well aware that a term before her gcses is not an ideal time to move school. Especially when this school don't even offer at GCSE one of the subjects she's taking.
Just don't know how the hell I can keep going.
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StressedOuMyMind · 24/11/2016 08:19
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