Talk

Advanced search

Do your 13 year olds spend or expect you to spend a lot on make up?

(36 Posts)
Flippinlife72 Wed 16-Nov-16 19:16:26

First it was mascara, I used to buy her fairly cheap ones from boots, then one of her friends mentioned the benefit one so then she wanted that one she got one for her birthday but when it ran out I refused to buy a new one so I got her a maybelline one. Now it's concealer not sure what make it is but it's £22 , now I can't afford these sort of prices for myself never mind her, but I get told everyone is using these brands. Do you guys buy these expensive items for your 13 year olds. I work but I just don't know how people afford it. Xmas and birthdays are different!!?

specialsubject Wed 16-Nov-16 20:30:28

Tell her not to be a sheep. Teens lie anyway.

BackforGood Wed 16-Nov-16 20:44:53

No.
They are 15 and 18 now, and the answer is still no.
It's years since they tried to say "But everyone ......." as they know it would carry no weight with me. Indeed, they are independent enough thinkers themselves to not worry what the mythical "everyone" else does / thinks / wears.

dementedpixie Wed 16-Nov-16 20:46:48

No, my Dd is totally uninterested in make up or brand names or following what everyone else is doing. On the other hand she doesn't have a big friendship group so maybe not so much peer pressure

Flippinlife72 Wed 16-Nov-16 21:33:57

Yep that's what I thought, why the hell do they need all this make up at that age anyway 🙄

Fairylea Wed 16-Nov-16 21:38:23

The bloggers and vloggers are to blame. They all want mac and benefit now. It's ridiculous.

Dd is 13. She gets bits bought for her from Rimmel and other Superdrug type brands. She might get an urban decay palette or a mac lipstick for her birthday or Christmas but that's the only time I would spend lots on make up for her.

Gingerlilly Wed 16-Nov-16 22:09:31

No, they use way too much to pay those prices but Superdrug do a couple of brands that are really cheap and my teen is happy to use (even though she reckons to be quite fussy) its called revolution.

Love51 Wed 16-Nov-16 22:21:29

At that age, anything essential went in the family trolley (toothpaste, sanpro, bog standard shampoo) was paid for by parents, anything extra (fancy shampoo, razors, make up) I had to buy myself out of my allowance which I topped up with earnings in the holidays. its strange how much less essential these things become when you have to fund them yourself!

Love51 Wed 16-Nov-16 22:22:48

I meant to put, this system seemed fair, and I plan to follow it with my own kids in a few years.

ladylambkin Wed 16-Nov-16 22:25:38

My daughter buys herself rimmel or collection stuff herself. For birthdays and Christmas I treat her to Benefit or Urban Decay. It's not an everyday thing you buy yourself so it's nice to be gifted it.

NeonPinkNails Wed 16-Nov-16 22:30:00

Yes! Well she would given half a chance. She loves Mac, Urban Decay, Nars and whatever else all the beauty bloggers recommend. It used to annoy me - when I was her age everyone just had cheapo Rimmel and Avon stuff - but actually she uses it really well and looks better than I ever did, gives me a few tips too smile.

She hasn't got very much of the expensive stuff though - a few of my cast-offs and the odd thing I've bought or she's saved up for. I can only just afford to buy decent make-up for myself so while I don't mind her having expensive tastes, until she can pay for it herself she won't be indulging them much.

Heifer Thu 17-Nov-16 11:06:31

Yes, DD (almost 13) loves the expensive stuff! It's not something I understand at all - having only ever used Boots No7 but it's something that is important to her. I have bought her the odd thing, everything else she buys herself or has it for presents etc. I have relaxed my rules over makeup over the last 12 months tbh. Never let her wear foundation or eyebrow makeup but going out now seems to involve mascara, lippy, coverup and contouring (Never heard of that before DD told me).. She has brushes and sponges in her make up bag that I have no idea what they are for..

She looks really nice both wearing make up and without and although I don't understand why she needs it at her age - all her friends also wear it and have the same brands (Mac is very popular)..

I am learning to pick my battles but if I can't afford it, then she has to buy it herself or wait for presents.

eyebrowsonfleek Thu 17-Nov-16 18:29:38

Dd realises that beauty bloggers are on commission (and I'm a single parent) and is happy to use brands like Rommel unlike some of her friends who use Charlotte Tilbury, Mac etc

eyebrowsonfleek Thu 17-Nov-16 18:40:18

Love51 I think that hair removal cream/wax/razors should be classified as an essential. (I think under 16s/18s? can't buy razors these days)

NightNightBadger19962 Thu 17-Nov-16 18:47:28

She gets a weekly allowance (£6) which is meant to cover 'wants not needs', going shopping with friends etc. Funnily enough, I find she doesn't want to spend her own money as much as she wants to spend mine, and tends to save it.

Bertucci Thu 17-Nov-16 18:54:06

Many teen girls seem to want such expensive makeup now.

In my day, we were thrilled with No17 and Rimmel!

My teen goddaughters have on their Christmas lists Charlotte Tilbury, Mac, Laura Mercier and Suqqu brushes! shock

Oblomov16 Thu 17-Nov-16 18:58:42

Loads of girls in ds1's school have tonnes of expensive stuff, like mac etc.
I can't believe the parents choose to spend the money.

Flippinlife72 Thu 17-Nov-16 22:46:11

Well no this it it oblomov. I simply haven't got that money for myself never mind her

corythatwas Fri 18-Nov-16 12:14:27

What Love15 said: set monthly allowance is the only way to go ime. You provide the basics, like school uniform and basic hygiene articles: anything non-essential comes out of their allowance and they have to budget for it. That way you don't need to get bogged down into discussions about which non-essentials are worthwhile.

GinIsIn Fri 18-Nov-16 12:23:02

Pinterest has loads of stuff on 'dupes' - the best high st copies Of posh brands - direct her towards that. Also Topshop make up is great.

Florida41 Fri 18-Nov-16 14:26:38

my 15dd loves her makeup and always wants more , just spent £20 the other week but she did get quite a lot for the money , never the expensive stuff .
she dose keep hinting that she likes MAC but never will I pay that price unles it Xmas or birthday .

seventhgonickname Sat 19-Nov-16 12:40:02

Dd 13 not that interested yet,instead of mascara I dye her eyelashes,she has tried eye liner but buying her own with pocket money meant she didn't even look at brands.Luckily she doesn't mind being independent clothing wise and her friends seem to compete on the best clothes from TKMax/eBay etc.Bargain hunters the lot of them.

Sadik Sun 20-Nov-16 16:32:44

Saturday job? 14 y/o DD doesn't wear make-up, but I know classmates who do have jobs to pay for their make-up habits (tends to be cafe washing up / lawnmowing etc at that age). It wouldn't be my choice of what to spend money on, but I reckon if they're motivated enough to go out and earn, good luck to them.

AvocadoGirl Sun 20-Nov-16 21:16:13

Basic brands. Anything fancy she should pay for herself. Apart from the fact that it's not your responsibility to buy her luxuries, it's a good lesson for her to learn that luxuries cost a LOT of money!

Bl***y beauty bloggers! They're making kids lose track of reality, I reckon!

theclick Sun 20-Nov-16 21:17:38

Cant she save up for the expensive stuff herself??

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now