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Should I mind my own business or say something?

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BoredOfChores Fri 07-Oct-16 11:23:42

I have a dilemma and could use some advice please?
A mum from school has shared a video on FB of her eldest daughter to show off her soccer skills -she is very talented at football. It's basically ball control but she does handstands and press ups while holding the ball under her legs too.
Her daughter is 12 or 13. In the video she is wearing high heels and a skimpy dress.
The original FB site it has been shared on is a fitness motivation site but most posts look almost pornographic. The video has been viewed over 2 million times with many lewd comments from men that make me feel uncomfortable given her age, such as 'she's so f***ing hot'.
I'm not sure if the mum knows what kind of site it is, but she is far from naive so I assume she does.
Do I say something or mind my own business?

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 Fri 07-Oct-16 11:26:35

Maybe say the site has moved the pics to an unreputable one? Give her the links. Don't know what she could do tho if they are already up there now!

BoredOfChores Fri 07-Oct-16 11:32:41

Trouble is the name of the site is in the mum's shared post so she knows what it's called - I assume she knows the site and what it's like . She may have even helped her daughter upload it to get her football skills noticed - no idea.
Should I tell her I think it's inappropriate in view of the comments it's attracting?

HardcoreLadyType Fri 07-Oct-16 11:33:02

I would mention it.

Just say that she will probably be concerned about the kind of comments that the posts are attracting.

How do you even do football skills in high heels and a skimpy dress, any way?

You may also want to draw it to the attention of the admins of the FB page, if you can. I doubt they want any insinuation of child sexual abuse on their page!

AnyFucker Fri 07-Oct-16 11:34:19

Football skills in a skimpy dress and high heels ?

Odd.

BoredOfChores Fri 07-Oct-16 11:36:39

It's very odd - makes me feel very uncomfortable. The girl is very good at football - I assume she's dressed like that to get noticed.

BoredOfChores Fri 07-Oct-16 11:37:35

Thank you, I think that's a good idea.

misshelena Sat 08-Oct-16 18:15:49

If your goal is to inform, you can save your breath. The mom knows. Her intention was precisely to get this type of attention for her dd. It may seem odd to us, but I actually know a mom like that. She is living through her dd.

If your goal is to express disapproval, then go ahead. Just don't expect her to appreciate your opinion, much less do anything about it.

garlicandsapphire Sat 08-Oct-16 21:01:35

Sadly I suspect the mum does know as misshelena suggests though it is very distasteful. I cannot imagine why you'd show soccer skills in heels (I'd hate by DD to be perved about in that way). Probably its been deliberately done to be different and 'glam' to get attention and 'celebrity'. But that comes with a leery sleaze that is unpleasant to say the least. I still might the mum but I suspect she doesn't care.

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