DD2 is 15. She's my 4th child, oldest is 22. I thought I knew normal teen behaviour but I'm not sure if this is normal or bullying,
She's always been a very easy kid. She has always had lots of company and socialisation but also used to having to fight her corner to a certain extent, so definitely not a shrinking violet!
She has never had any problems with friends. She's easy going and happy.
She went to a residential summer camp thing for three weeks this summer with 6 of her school friends. We visited her every weekend while she was there and she seemed to be very happy. She did disclose when she came home that 2 of the group had been mean to her in that they consistently made her the butt of the joke. They would be quite witty so made whoever was there laugh so DD felt they were all always laughing at her. She had made other friends though and just hung around with them instead and as I say seemed happy while she was there.
She went back to school a few weeks later. She has been unhappy since she has gone back. Because she told some of her other friends in the group how she felt about the teasing over the summer they asked the 2 girls to stop as they were upsetting DD.
While the teasing has stopped, these girls have now started giving her the cold shoulder and have said they can't say anything while she is around as DD will say they are being mean.
The end result is that DD feels isolated in school. She no longer wants to spend her free time with this group of friends even though she still likes most of them. She is trying to find another group but the nature of 15 year olds is very clichey. She has been crying at home occasionally after school and just not her usual happy self. She does feel however that there is nothing to do now as they are no longer mean to her as such. I have made an appointment to meet her class teacher but I'm not sure really what she can do as the overt teasing/bullying has stopped. DD feels naming names and having these girls called out by the teacher is overkill and will make her even more isolated. She has wondered about moving schools. I'm very conflicted about this. She has always been happy at this school up until the past few weeks. Fall outs with friends are a normal part of life and may not be better anywhere else. Also she herself can list what she likes about the school; she has other good friends there, just they are also friends with these girls so she doesn't want to hang out with them, she plays sports and is on the junior and senior school teams and loves this. Also she has state exams this year so moving her mid year is a long way from ideal.
On the flip side I really want my happy laid-back daughter back! It really upsets me to see her miserable.
Sorry this is so long, all thoughts welcome!
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Is this bullying or normal 15 year old drama
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gemandjule · 06/10/2016 08:30
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