Please help with 18th birthday for dd with no friends really

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Ticktacktock Sun 11-Sep-16 21:53:27

She's disabled, has no friends as such, but does work with a few girls even though they have never socialised outside of work.

Birthdays were easy whilst at school, as we just invited the class mates to parties. Now she doesn't socialise at all, but she wants to do something. I'm at a total loss for her 18th.

MN ladies always have fab ideas, please help!!

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noeuf Sun 11-Sep-16 21:54:27

I'm taking mine for posh afternoon tea in London

HSMMaCM Sun 11-Sep-16 21:58:51

Afternoon tea is a great idea. Is she fit enough for a spa day? A special trip somewhere?

TheSpottedZebra Sun 11-Sep-16 22:02:33

A Day of Favourite Things.

Love pizza? Have it for breakfast.
Love the Toy Story films? Watch them all.
Love lego? Play it...

Etc etc. Someone did me a Favourite Things Day once. I LOVED IT. It involved a lot of food, and lots of laughing.

Themoleisdead Sun 11-Sep-16 22:06:07

Would she enjoy something like cocktails and shopping (I did this with my DD) or dinner and a show?

RaeSkywalker Sun 11-Sep-16 22:07:39

Depends how much you want to spend. Trip to see a show with night in a nice hotel? Spa treatments?

Ticktacktock Sun 11-Sep-16 22:21:26

Thanks ladies, keep them coming.

Was only in London last week, she's not girly, I buy her clothes and she hates shopping, doesn't like meals out, would hate a night away from home.

Oh dear oh dear oh dear, what am I going to do

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noeuf Sun 11-Sep-16 22:23:54

Age appropriate, or pitched younger?

Keeper for a day type stuff has always looked fun but expensive enough to be a special birthday.

WatchingFromTheWings Sun 11-Sep-16 22:24:29

Maybe ask her what she wants to do? She may already have something in mind.

00100001 Sun 11-Sep-16 22:25:13

Take her somewhere she's always wanted to go?

notquitegrownup2 Sun 11-Sep-16 22:28:13

Does she like animals? Often zoos do a special Be-A-Zookeeper-for-a-day days - perhaps they would let her look after her favourite animal?

honeysucklejasmine Sun 11-Sep-16 22:29:42

What does she like? Do you need something accessible?

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sun 11-Sep-16 22:32:44

Ask her what she'd like to do?

LittleBoat Sun 11-Sep-16 22:33:39

Big family party?

littlemissneela Sun 11-Sep-16 22:36:28

Mine has friends, but we got takeout Wagamama which we ate in the garden on a lovely sunny evening and had fizz. She can't drink much due to her meds anyway so a night on the town isn't something she would be interested in.
Why not ask your daughter what she would like to do? Maybe a meal somewhere shes not been and would love yo try, or a place she loves to go. A day out with a show? Harry Potter studios in London?

LineyReborn Sun 11-Sep-16 22:36:46

Would she like to do something with the girls she works with? You could maybe buy them tickets to something as her birthday treat, it treat them all to a meal at your house.

Thundercake Sun 11-Sep-16 22:36:51

Zebra the Favourite Things Day is such a lovely lovely idea. I'm definitely doing this for DH on his birthday

ridingsixwhitehorses Sun 11-Sep-16 22:37:42

Weekend away somewhere like Paris? My mum did this for my 18th as I didn't want a party as someone more popular than me was having one on same day sad. Paris was fab

MrsJayy Mon 12-Sep-16 18:12:13

A show ? Special Dinner at home and a some fizz invite family round of they are near .

MrsJayy Mon 12-Sep-16 18:13:19

The favourite things thing sounds fab

Joinourclub Mon 12-Sep-16 18:21:52

Musical/show? Manicure / pamper session? Hot air balloon ride?

Stopmakingsense Mon 12-Sep-16 20:15:21

A nice camera and a learn photography day?

Ticktacktock Mon 12-Sep-16 22:03:45

Thanks for more suggestions. What is keeper for a day?

A weekend away sounds great, but she's a home bird, besides couldn't afford it anyway!

I shouldn't think the girls she works with would be interested unless it was free for them, and then I would feel as though I'm buying their company.

We don't have much family and we aren't close anyway.

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Ticktacktock Mon 12-Sep-16 22:07:11

You're all being really helpful, thank you

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foursillybeans Mon 12-Sep-16 22:09:51

If your DD isn't close friends with anyone then I wouldn't worry about inviting them or making her birthday a friend thing. It doesn't sound as if it would add anything to her day iyswim.

I would stick with her interests. You know her best. I don't want to out myself by being specific but I have a particular interest and if someone just took an interest in that and took me somewhere linked for a day and bought me my fav food and just let me chose really I would be happy. Do you think your DD would like that?

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