feeling sorry for my 17 year old DD

(6 Posts)
runningflojo12345 Fri 09-Sep-16 22:33:09

My DD has a good friends in and outside of sixth form but tonight I especially felt sorry for her. She got in from school all down and miserable because all her friends had been invited to a 18th birthday party of a lad out of sixth form. I feel really sorry for her as all her friends have been going on about it all day. She is now sitting upstairs sulking and I just feel useless. Has this happened to any other peoples dd or ds and did they get over it? confused confused confused

(this is also not the first time this has happened in the past year)

vichill Fri 09-Sep-16 22:49:05

i have been that 17 year old!it was the end of the world at the time but looking back i think i dodged a bullet with all that crap. i was the bod who had to go and get a morning after pill for a friend, hide in the 6th form library with another friend after some indecretion but i was otherwise unscathed. also, my mum was brill at making me feel better with humour over a small wine and doner kebab.

AvengeTheDoc Fri 09-Sep-16 23:55:51

I was this person, bullied throughout school and 6th form ( Infact I just had someone yesterday add me on Facebook just to taunt me about damage they done to my car 6-7 years ago.) I missed a lot of parties, it hunk I got invited to one" cool "party through 6th form, I was excited it was fun but not as fun as they all made out. I made my friends halfway through year 12 and started drinking with them and going out with in the summer before year 13 a lot more fun, just having a laugh.

It will suck and will probably when they talk about it Monday/ Tuesday, but if she gets in with a group of friends that are tight knit that will be the best for her and she'll probably have more fun. As I remember the party I went to as a kind of showing off, and for the people to try and hook up, the ones with my friends there was some hooking up but it was just chilling having a laugh.

The best you can do is try and take her mind off it by doing something with her, or encouraging her to meet other friends on that night I'm the future

DiegeticMuch Sun 11-Sep-16 16:17:30

Is it really "all" her friends, or just the ones with whom this guy is particularly friendly. I remember a big party at sixth form to which I wasn't invited, but the kid in question barely knew me and his parents had hired a smallish venue so he couldn't invite all and sundry.

charliethebear Sun 11-Sep-16 22:52:23

If its really all her friends they aren't being very nice. If i was the friends i would have asked in that situation if I could come with my friend (I.e. Your DD), thats pretty normal at teen parties.
Is it that your DD just doesn't know this boy or is it deliberate exclusion do you think?
Either way maybe have a takeaway and film night with just your DD and you?

DollyBarton Sun 11-Sep-16 22:57:46

Stick her in the car, go for pizza, the cinema or if I thought I'd get away with it if take her for a cocktail somewhere cool and just make her feel special and that there's a whole big world of fun out there even if some people don't invite you to some things.

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