My DD is 14 and has ortherexia and traits of anorexia. She has recently been given a label. She is very sporty and into running but she hasn't been able to exercise in the past 3 weeks. She usually went running 3 days a week and did a gym session. She had a membership but I am now cancelling it due to her bad behaviour and refusal to eat junk food and aggressive behaviour. She used to be such a happy and healthy child, she was a size 8/10, 8/8.5 stone and always had a smile on her face. She's now very weak, constantly crying, mild self harming such as head banging and breaking her nails on purpose ect. I don't know what to do with her anymore, she's a tiny 6 stone 12 pounds, just under 5ft 4 and doesn't look like the little girl I used to have. She is isolating herself from friends and famliy, says she hates herself and me. She's wished me dead and threatened to run away. We've tried telling her people have it a lot worse than her and are constantly offering to take her places like shopping and the cinema but she won't have it. She had a massive meltdown when we asked her to have some pudding. I can't cope with her anymore, I don't know where she can go as she clearly hates our house so much and I am terrified she will run away from home as I've found her diary in her room which gave me some worries about her plans.
Anyone who has any ideas or support to offer or even someone who's been in the same sort of situation as I am in now would be valued.
Thank you!
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Lifeisshort123 · 04/09/2016 22:43
Unfortunately I am in the same sort of situation with my daughter
I'm in Essex and we were referred to family solutions via social services (I called SS myself and they offered family solutions to us)
I wouldn't say they have helped DD much, she is very isolated and not up for talking to strangers but they have and are supporting me which is valuable.
I also spoke to our Gp and her school.
In fact, I've spoken to a lot of people, her cheer leader and track leader, I'm such a private person but her needs are greater than my privacy.
We are no where near the happy end and still have a long way to go but opening up (like you have here) was a big leap to the start for us 
She is still very, very young. Please don't blame yourself
Does she like food? Do you get time to cook and bake, I don't, I work full time so it's a bit free for all with no control here.
It's nice to know I'm not the only one going through this but it's upsetting too. I'm sorry that you are going through this, I understand all to well how you feel. I'd be afraid to contact SS incase they took her away as she's so unhappy and perhaps they'd think I wasn't feeding her properly which I do even though she likes to make out that I feed her junk if I ask her to have some ice cream on a Friday night or a biscuit with her banana. I don't think she understands about having a variety of foods. I find it quite hard to open up to people about her eating disorder as I feel like they my label me as a bad mother. I know I need to tell her school when she goes back on Wednesday and probably the rest of the family. I hope you reach a happy end soon.
I will keep you in my thoughts.
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