Hello all parents out there! I need help/advice with how to approach my girlfriend's parents. Here are facts:
- I'm 22 yr old male
- my girlfriend (gf) is 20.
- Been together since January 2016.
- My gf sleeps in my rented room in London when she comes to stay on the occasional weekend and sleeps with me in my mum and dad's family house.
- Her parents know we have an intimate, sexual relationship.
- When I stay at my gf's house I have to sleep in a separate room and her parents on the occasion get funny about us snuggling.
- Her sister who is 22, has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for over 4 years and she still can't sleep in the same bedroom as him. Her boyfriend is 28.
I am just trying to be a good boyfriend but this behaviour from her parents often leads to my girlfriend having arguments because she feels it is ridiculous and it has even led to her crying to me about the fragile relationship she sometimes has with her parents. There seems to be a lack of understanding between both my gf and her parents. My personal belief is that respect should work both ways but naturally I am more inclined to agreeing with my gf. My gf's parents aren't religious but maybe could be classed as old fashioned when it comes to romance and relationships. I understand that this is a delicate subject and would really appreciate your opinions on my following questions:
- Do you think it is wrong of her parents to stop us from sleeping in her room?
- How can I approach her parents to discuss the matter? I'm not sure they are aware of the fact they are pushing their daughter away from them both physically and mentally. My gf is naturally very shy and often doesn't have the courage to express her true feelings on the matter.
- How can I get her parents to have a little bit of faith in me?
Thank you for reading my post if you managed to read all of it and will value any responses I receive from you readers!