Hello,
My 15 year old has started some work with our social workers which aims to explore the reasons behind his inappropriate behaviour towards his older (autistic) brother and his behaviour towards his parents. The work is based on AIMS 2 training and Respect.
He went for his first session yesterday. I was very proud of him because he was incredibly anxious. However, he seems to be shocked by the content of the sessions.
After the introduction, he was given a book which had diagrams of what I can only infer were people engaging in various forms of intimate activities. I think he was asked which activities he felt were acceptable and which were not. He said he threw the book on the floor and told the social workers they should not be delivering this session because the book was published by the police.
I explained that a 'danger statement' on the Child Protection Plan was that his behaviour is criminal and needs to be addressed. I said that is why the booklets were being used.
Various other questions were asked and I sense that my son's responses were a mixture of bravado and worrying lack of empathy.
I want to support my son through this difficult time. I know that if I was 15 and I was being asked some of the questions my son is having to answer, I would be very defensive.
Yet, I am also worried. For example, the social workers told me (when I asked for feedback) that my son had said there was nothing wrong with hitting women as long as it's not too hard. Also, when he was asked what would happen if my eldest son went to he police, he said my eldest would not go to he police because he was too mixed up.
As I said, my son could be acting out of bravado. However, I have a queasy feeling that he is not, entirely.
Has anyone any tips on how I can help and support him? I fear that under the bravado, he is extremely upset.
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HarHer · 18/08/2016 19:02
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