My DS has mild aspergers, but is generally okay. He did not cope with GCSES last year and ran away from home and did not sit his exams, to live with a girl who was pregnant with another lads baby. He was gone 9 months and only came back a month after the relationship had ended and she was seeing his best friend.
He says there are no problems with me, his stepdad or anything at home - that he just wanted to get away.
He smokes but doesn't really drink and doesn't do drugs. He has started to stay out at night, at a friend's or a girls or wherever, but has stopped telling or asking us. He is not working and has no money other than if I give him any.
He has been gone since Friday. One text to say he was okay and 'forgot' to call. His friend confirms he is with him but he doesn't pick up his phone and is now ignoring my texts.
It really upsets me. I have tried everything. Screaming, shouting, calm talks, gentle gentle, punishments like having his phone disconnected, praise and reward when he is on form, quality one on one time, space when needed..... But nothing. He is so passive aggressive in his slow, don't give a shit approach. It breaks my heart.
My DH (his step dad) gets really angry at the situation but doesn't really yell at DS or anything. If he sees me upset that makes him really mad at DS but he tells at me about what a selfish prick DS is but doesn't do much else. So I have the stress of DS being AWOL again, and then DH losing his temper at me about what DS is doing. He really gets angry and shouts. When I tell him not to or get angry back we end up rowing. I am not defensive of DS but do t see why DH should be yelling at me. It's not like I am doing nothing. I am at my wit's end.
Anyone else have anything similar happen or any advice?
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What do I do with DS 17, he doesn't come home.
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MargotFenring · 09/08/2016 21:22
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