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Troubled teenager (13 yo male)(2 Posts)
Ok, here goes. Bare with me because this is hard and a long story. I will try to keep it as brief as possible.
I am at my wits end with my boy. He is displaying some very worrying behaviours. He is violent to the point where he has assaulted me (taken away by police on yhe last occasion). He has severe anger management issues. He can literally turn on a sixpence from this loving and caring, sweet natured boy into what is essentially an emotionally controlling manipulative narcissist. He is a constant flight risk, taking off when it pleases him whether he be at school, at home, wherever. He lies, he steals and is often truant from school. He plays people off against each other (or at least tries to) to the point where even the support workers around him are starting to see through him and are becoming reluctant to help. He has accused everyone around him of some form of abuse or neglect and will indeed use anything, such as a misplaced gesture as a bullet for his gun to shoot you with. We are walking on egg shells so we don't set him off which only adds to the stress.
He believes that he is perfectly justified in his actions, has no remorse, no fear of consequence and no regard for others. He has said on multiple occasions that he wants to hurt himself and others and has indeed acted on this, most recently spending a night in the local hospital after threatening suicide. I have CAMHS, CAF, Educational Welfare, learning mentors and even the local MP involved but the help is still not quick enough coming. I am getting to the point where I really believe he would be better in care, as I feel unable to provide a stable environment for him no matter how hard I try but I know in my heart this is not the way forward and will probably make things worse in the long term. However I cannot live like this any longer. Its making me ill, despite anti anxiety medication I am literally throwing up through nerves and sheer exhaustion every single day. My hair is falling out and I have lost a lot of weight again. I am on the phone morning, noon and night begging everyone and anyone for help but to no avail and I really don't want to have to keep resorting to intervention from police all the time as it drives a wedge between us further but that is all any of the professionals advise. Please help me, I can't take much more of this
This sounds just awful. I'm so sorry. May be care is the only way to get him the help he needs. services are much easier to access when in the care system. It'll give you a chance to heal you can't continue the way it's going. Your son reads as if he has a deep psychological illness and need professional intervention.