My DS aged 19 has a lovely new(ish) GF. She's 17, intelligent, speaks fluently and confidently & generally seems a really nice girl.
In common with most parents of teenagers I've given up asking questions & have learned to 'glean' information - everything that I heard about her was favourable.
So, since they've been going out for a while, I allowed her to stay last weekend - Fri night-Mon am. I assumed with her parent's permission.
This evening DS turned up at my work to ask if he & GF could have a lift home & BTW could she stay?
No problem. ......
Until about 19:00 when the police turn up on my doorstep asking for GF! She's upstairs i say - I'll go & get her.
Long discussion with GF & police (left them to it, but heard snatches - you can't help it can you?!) ending in GF agreeing with police that she will allow her mum to pick her up.
Nice policeman (father of teenagers!) took his leave from me saying that he had his doubts if she would be collected & asked if I was Ok with her staying for the night. I reassured him that she was safe here as I was in all evening & would make sure that she was looked after. He asked me not to be too hard on my son - he's a good lad he said, his heart is in the right place.
Darn I should have got that in writing! LOL!
Then I find DS & GF are leaving.
Turns out that she 'can't' go home - parents abusive etc. I'd previously gathered that her home life was 'complicated' & that Social Services had some involvement. Not her fault - no such thing as bad children only faulty parenting. - but that's another discussion! LOL!
So, I say to them both that they can't just leave as I'm responsible for GF since she's only 17 & the police had left her in my care until her parent/s can take over. She's determined - she 'cannot' go home.
I suggest that I call mum & talk to her suggesting that GF stays with me tonight in order to let the dust settle & I will undertake to get her into town tomorrow.
Mum describes her nightmare life with her wayward daughter and, (quite rightly) says that she doesn't know me. However, mum says that she can't exactly drag her daughter home, so she may as well stay with me.
Mum was very quick to agree to her staying. Mum also said that she hadn't seen or heard from her since last Friday! Why did she leave it so long before she contacted the police? I'm rather inclined to believe GF at this point.
I speak to GF & suggest that SHE (not me - I'm rung out!) ring her mum & arrange to meet her in a neutral place for a coffee rather than going straight home. I explain to GF that if she shows that she's reasonable & can be trusted that her mum may agree to her staying more often. I appeal to her and DS not to let me down.
Now I'm wondering if I've done the right thing....comments invited please
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Voiceoffstage · 02/06/2016 20:52
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