I have a problem with my dd20. Her room is an utter midden and has been for years. We have had this argument for years and years about keeping it hygienic (not tidy).
She chooses not to have friends over rather than tidy it/keep it clean. It's the main cause of unhappiness in our house, her door is hanging off because she has a monumental pile of washing behind it. She lies in bed and throws whatever rubbish she has at the side. Her bin never gets emptied, she just piles things beside it, used wipes, dirty underwear, old receipts, empty wrappers.
Telling her not to eat upstairs doesn't work, she just ignores me. Charging her extra board doesn't work, she doesn't pay. Changing wifi password doesn't work, she uses her unlimited data.
Her room stinks (she can't smell it). Our house smells upstairs. You can't get moved in there, her bed hasn't been changed this year or the carpet hoovered since about August last year. Her bin hasn't been emptied either and under her covers, there's sweet wrappers and melted sweets, McDonald's wrappers, hairbrushes etc. She sort of tidies when we have an almighty blow up about it but within days it's back to what it was (but never cleaned) We have had it redecorated to encourage her to keep it nicely but it didn't work.
Surely I'm entitled to have the house I pay for, work all hours to pay for, hygienic? And without a door hanging off? When challenged about it, all she says is that we treat her like a child (we don't) because we nag about the room. We should just leave her alone to live how she wants with her room in whatever state she sees fit.
She has us over a barrel because she says that if we increase her (nominal) board she will move out. I know if she does, she'd never bother with us again. She also says if we increase her board then she will leave her placement (which she needs to get into uni). Obviously I'm not going to do this because it's petty but she really can't make the link between making her room hygienic and arguments ceasing. I'm at the end of my tether and our other children are embarrassed to have friends over because of the smell.
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Vobble · 10/03/2016 23:00
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