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Mother's day - what are you expecting?

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Chocolateislovely · 03/03/2016 18:23

I just ask because last year my mother's day gift was a text, late afternoon, wishing me happy mothers day. Dd had forgotten apparently Hmm

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rainbowstardrops · 03/03/2016 18:43

That's a bit crap Sad
My kids (DS 15 and DD 10) will just let their father sort it all!

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IHaveBrilloHair · 03/03/2016 18:52

Nothing.
I don't actually mind, I'd usually buy my own gift, but a bit skint this year, will buy myself something when I can.

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BackforGood · 03/03/2016 18:59

I've already go a card from ds, posted from University although this is a first, no doubt prompted by his girlfriend as it's YEARS since he's got me a card

I suspect dd1 and dd2 will get me some chocs

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 03/03/2016 19:02

probably a card, but Im not fussed if nothing happens.

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Bonkerz · 03/03/2016 19:04

My 15 year old asked if he could treat me to a Chinese take away Sunday night. He started a part time job a few months ago and earns £30 a week.

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wickedwaterwitch · 03/03/2016 19:07

Cards, flowers, lunch in a restaurant and we'll do whatever I want to do all day

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maybebabybee · 03/03/2016 19:08

DBRO aged 14 is cooking dinner for our mum!

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Readysteadyknit · 03/03/2016 19:12

DS is cooking me dinner. DD is not back from uni til the following week - traditionally she buys me an orchid.

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SimplySelena · 03/03/2016 19:23

My boys have told me they're going to a party on Saturday so no doubt they'll be hungover on the Sunday..

I can't complain as I've had some really lovely mother's day moments with them in the past, and I'll just get DH to spoil me instead ;-)

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 03/03/2016 19:34

bonkerz thats lovely :)

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Notgrumpyjustquiet · 03/03/2016 19:39

I'm expecting business as usual: slammed doors and being called a dickhead. People assure me that he'll grow up eventually.

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peggyundercrackers · 03/03/2016 19:43

I don't expect anything, tbh I don't put any kind of value on these kinds of days, same with birthdays - all too commercialised for my liking.

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bigbluebus · 03/03/2016 20:18

DD is learning disabled so wouldn't be able to get me anything without DCH's involvement. She has made a card at her Day Opps programme which she has brought home today. I did hint at DH the other day that my old photo albums had lost their stickiness and all the pictures were falling out, so I suspect he may purchase some new ones on DDs behalf - yes we still print photos in this house.
DS is away at Uni in his 1st year. I did buy him a calendar and put all the birthdays on it before he went away. He did remember his sister's birthday because it was on there but I can't remember if I circled Mother's Day on the calendar and not sure if DH would bother to make sure he has remembered, so I'm not really anticipating anything at all from DS but will be delighted if he sends a card.

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BG2015 · 03/03/2016 20:54

My ex H normally sorts something. We've been divorced 10 yrs now and last year he made my 2 DS use their own money to buy me Lush stuff, which was lovely but I was annoyed with him. They were only 15 and 11 and have hardly any cash.I ended up reimbursing them. I don't think it's fair on them.

He left them to it for my birthday too in February as he was on holiday. They pooled their money and bought me flowers, again, not fair. I'd bought him expensive wine and a card for his birthday in January.

I've told them just a card is lovely, I don't expect anything else.

When it comes to Fathers Day I maybe will leave them to it and see how he feels?

When they have jobs, that will be different. But at the moment making a child use £3 pocket money is a bit mean.

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Wardrobedoors · 03/03/2016 22:31

I would be very happy to receive just a card from dd but sadly I don't think she will bother herself. Same as last year.

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SirChenjin · 03/03/2016 22:36

A card, chocolates and breakfast in bed. All fine - but then we're spending the day with MiL because SiL is buggering off to BiLs family for the weekend and has asked DH to make sure MiL is not on her own for mothers day - so a 3 hour round trip.

That sounds really churlish, doesn't it? Sad MiL has been very one sided over the years and doesn't show much interest in us, so it rankles a bit.

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TheSecondOfHerName · 03/03/2016 22:45

I've told the 16 year old that what I would like for Mother's Day is for him to start taking responsibility for his own appointments and deadlines. He seems to be able to remember things when it suits him (meeting up with friends) yet forgets the important stuff (medical appointments, school deadlines). If he manages that, then I'll be happy.

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insan1tyscartching · 03/03/2016 23:26

Dd1 is whipping the others into shape according to dh anyway.Apparently they haven't been forthcoming with ideas or the impetus to go shopping either so suspect she has been doing the shopping and charging them for the service no doubt.
Dh and dses are going away for the weekend so it will be just me and dds at home. Hoping for plenty of peace and quiet and time to read and watch TV (declaring the house a football free zone this weekend)
I expect dh will have ordered flowers to be delivered but I'd be more than happy with a card and the chance to put my feet up.

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Travelledtheworld · 04/03/2016 23:02

Nothing.
I bought myself a bouquet of flowers from the Supermarket.
Sad

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circular · 05/03/2016 08:02

I think DD1 (18, away a Uni) and DD2 (13) have been in cahoots, as been hinted at by DD2 not to touch anything that arrives in the post. Oh, and would I mind if I got a late present lol.

Generally get offered breakfast, have always told them not to bother with cards, or the commercialised hype.

Not expecting a surprise visit home from DD1 as only 2 weeks till Easter hols start.

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CalicoBlue · 05/03/2016 09:49

We have never really bothered with Mothers Day. I used to get cards when they made them at Primary School. Nothing now, does not bother me in the slightest.

My DM though expects something. One year I forgot and she was not happy. So I send her flowers. DD heard me order them and looked a bit sheepish, I told her not to bother with me and that I did not expect or want anything.

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PeaStalks · 05/03/2016 13:05

Same as CalicoBlue. I think I last got a card when they were making them in primary school.

Last year sis and I didn't take DM out as she has a regular Sunday lunch outing. She was Not Pleased. I'd quite like to point out to her that in 20 years of being a mother myself I have never been "taken out" or had presents bought. I will resist though.

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Wardrobedoors · 05/03/2016 14:38

Of course now dd will go and buy me something lovely and I'll feel bad for thinking she doesn't care Blush.

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howabout · 05/03/2016 14:44

DD3 made me a lovely card at nursery. DD1 and DD2 were torn between not bothering as they would never outdo her and being shamed into making an effort. They are also organising the takeaway this evening but it is taking a LOT of effort.

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NorbertDentressangle · 05/03/2016 14:52

DD has gone into town so will buy a card and something like chocolates or flowers for me from her and DS . She did want to get me a bottle of gin (I've obviously brought her up well!Grin) but she's too young so they won't sell it to her!

With a bit of luck I'll get tea and toast in bed in the morning but that won't be coming from DD as she's unlikely to be out of her bed until midday!

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