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16 year old DD wasted for second time in under a month

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MrsKilminster Sun 28-Feb-16 09:09:45

I'm sure this topic has been done to death so sorry but would welcome advice. Teenage daughter just turned 16 last month, has come home from a party for the second time in just under a month completely wasted.
She passed out at her friend's house and then spent the night on our sofa because I couldn't get her up the stairs. I didn't get any sleep because I kept checking her breathing and was worried she might choke on her own vomit.

After the first incident (when she wasn't unconscious, just very sick), she promised not to do it again. We've talked this morning and she assured me that she'd kept an eye on how much she was drinking, felt fine and then doesn't remember anything else. One of her friends told me last night that she was acting normally (ie not drunk) and then just passed out. We have a close relationship, can talk about anything and have discussed the dangers of alcohol endlessly.

ProfGrammaticus Sun 28-Feb-16 09:12:04

I think she needs an earlier curfew for a while - can you pick her up? Show her footage of how being that drunk can put your safety at risk, frighten her a bit. Silly girl.

JeanSeberg Sun 28-Feb-16 09:13:57

There'd be no more parties if this is the result. Who's supervising them st the friend's houses?

RJnomore1 Sun 28-Feb-16 09:14:08

I think I'd want to ask what she was drinking. If the friends story is true I would wonder if she could have been spiked.

MrsKilminster Sun 28-Feb-16 09:23:06

Earlier curfew is a good idea and yes I often pick her up. I doubt very much her drink was spiked but I'll check with her friends to see if they knew how much she was drinking. I'm a single mum but have a reasonable relationship with her dad. Should I tell him about this? He's bound to be livid with her but I feel he has a right to know as she's with him a lot.

nonamenopackdrill Sun 28-Feb-16 09:29:27

I think if you don't tell her dad it'll come back to bite you in one form or another. Also, hopefully telling him will mean you have an ally in dealing with her behaviour.

MrsKilminster Sun 28-Feb-16 09:38:22

Thank you Noname, I've decided to tell him.

scarlets Tue 01-Mar-16 09:28:54

I did this at 16/17 once or twice as did most of my friends I think, but if it's two parties in a row, it could be that a bad pattern is setting in iyswim. She needs to appreciate that this can't happen again anytime soon. I hope that your ex is supportive.

MrsKilminster Tue 01-Mar-16 11:11:07

Hi Scarlets, yes it's the twice in a row that worries me. Ex very supportive, we've decided to ground her for a while (she can go to friends' houses but no parties) and are showing her lots of love and support. She's absolutely mortified as she remembers nothing and knows that if it does happen again, really serious measures will need to be taken.

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