Hi. I am reaching out because I am desperate. We are a normal family of five. My husband and I are happily married, we don't argue (except the usual grumpy stuff about rubbish and dishwashers). We live in a large 5 bed house in a lovely area. My three sons are handsome and clever. My eldest is very bright - he nailed his GCSEs doing no work. He is now failing his A'levels. The school has called us in because of it. We don't care if he fails - we just want him alive.
Three days ago my husband had a phone call at work from a lady to say that my son had been to see her because he was in a very dark place. It transpires that he made a doctors appointment himself and got referred.
The school called me yesterday to tell me that he had mentioned he was having suicidal thoughts.
Today I have found out that he has been self-harming. There are 'goodbye' notes under his mattress and a diary on his floor saying how he needs to 'bleed' but cutting himself makes him feel sick (thank goodness he has always been squeamish).
Both of us have tried to talk to him. He doesn't want talk to us. He says we have to trust him and let him work it out on his own. He says he just wants to come home and it 'all be back to how it was' ie before we knew. He says that we only want to talk to him to make ourselves feel better and that we aren't listening to what HE wants - which is to be left alone to manage by himself.
I just want to know that he isn't going to kill himself. We can deal with the rest. He is going through the CAHMS route himself but we can get paid for help and also via our BUPA cover.
Can he, at 16yrs, really 'do this' himself?
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oldbagofsoot · 27/02/2016 18:26
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