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Right that's it- no cooking for a week!

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NaturalBlondeYeahRight Tue 09-Feb-16 18:14:17

Dd1 (15) is a bloody fussy eater, I try to accommodate her (kept thinking it was a phase and didn't want to make it an issue) but still try to get some healthy meals in to her. Tonight she threw her toys out of the pram when I mentioned tonights dinner. I'm completely sick of it so I've given her £10 for any odd ingredients, plus access to home food and told her she will be cooking her own meals for a week. She's lazy and not a great cook, I'm hoping this will be painful for her so that after this she will either stop moaning or cook more of her own meals.
Is this a stupid idea? Do you think it will backfire?

Sallyhasleftthebuilding Tue 09-Feb-16 18:15:49

She'll buy chips - good luck might make her sit up and think a bit!!!

expatinscotland Tue 09-Feb-16 18:16:18

Sounds like a plan to me! She may be leaving home in 3 years. Who will cook for her then?

MrsPnut Tue 09-Feb-16 18:17:06

It will either make you appreciate your cooking more, make her actually get up and sort herself out or make you seethe whilst she enjoys eating random crap for a week. wink

If my 9 year old doesn't want what I'm cooking for dinner then she has to make herself something else never mind the 19 year old.

MrsPnut Tue 09-Feb-16 18:17:26

her not you

NaturalBlondeYeahRight Tue 09-Feb-16 18:19:51

We live in the sticks so no chance for chips unless out at the weekend. I bet she'll go to uni and turn all adventurous (on the food front!!) and come home to say 'why didn't we eat squid and avocados?'
Honestly, sometimes this parenting teenagers can be so tedious.

IHaveBrilloHair Tue 09-Feb-16 18:22:30

Strangely mine is fussier now at 14 than she ever has been, but I'm ok with it so long as she doesn't moan/whine about the meal.
What she likes one day she doesn't the next.
I suppose I have the advantage in that I love cooking, I don't see it as a waste of money as eaten or not the money is spent.

I went through a similar phase as a teen so remind myself of that.
The alternative is value noodles though, not a whole new meal.

MyKingdomForBrie Tue 09-Feb-16 18:22:34

Surely if she's got £10 for ingredients she can buy oven chips?!

StandoutMop Tue 09-Feb-16 18:22:53

Sounds fine to me. I hate not the cooking but the thinking of stuff that won't mortally offend all 3 of mine in some way or another (or at least will upset them all equally grin).

I long for the day I can leave them to it in protest, although we don't live in the sticks, so chips are more than likely, or pizza from the local supermarket.

Let us know how it goes.

OhYouBadBadKitten Tue 09-Feb-16 18:25:27

did she want pancakes?

LineyReborn Tue 09-Feb-16 18:25:50

OH did this with his DD (who lives with him) at a similar age. She's 17 now, and can cook quite well - lots of pasta dishes, noodles with veg, and salads as well as cakes and other puddings.

The only downside is that their ridiculously narrow galley kitchen isn't big enough for two people to be cooking at the same time (OH cooks for himself and his DSs) so the odd flounce still happens.

I think she gets a similar amount of money, about a tenner-ish a week, and access to store cupboard / fridge.

She certainly looks happy and healthy.

FiveGoMadInDorset Tue 09-Feb-16 18:31:47

What was tonight's dinner?

AtiaoftheJulii Tue 09-Feb-16 18:40:27

I get mine to cook - once a week each on a good week. It hasn't made them less fussy, but it has made them complain less, as they have realised how annoying it is to have people moan about what you've produced!

NaturalBlondeYeahRight Tue 09-Feb-16 18:45:32

A simple stir fry was dinner. Nothing new or untested. We've all had ours now but eldest just plugged in to headphones ignoring us. I was planning on doing pancakes after, not sure what to do about that now.
mop like you, it's not the cooking but the thinking of ideas that everyone will eat- so boring.
I'm not sure what she will buy, maybe oven chips? Surely even she would be sick of them for a whole week? It might be worth it anyway as it still involves sorting her own meal which will be more of the punishment.

LineyReborn Tue 09-Feb-16 19:21:42

Do the pancakes. smile

BackforGood Tue 09-Feb-16 20:02:43

I suspect if anything like my dd she'll be quite happy living on pasta or pizza for a week.

Completely by accident, the way I cut out 95% of the moaning about whatever was for tea, was when we moved to everyone in the house taking turns to cook the evening meal during the week. I suspect it was partly because they all got their turn, but mainly because they began to understand that when you've been out all day, then come in and made the meal for everyone, to have everyone just moan about it gives you the complete rage, so (although that wasn't the reason behind us starting to do it) most of the moaning stopped.

leonardthelemming Tue 09-Feb-16 20:58:51

Sounds like a plan to me! She may be leaving home in 3 years. Who will cook for her then?

Actually, she could in principle leave home at 16. Not saying she should, but she definitely needs to learn to cook.

Incidentally, I posted on another thread (and got criticised for it) that DS2 lived by himself during his A levels. He's a brilliant cook now - we love going to visit!

cdtaylornats Tue 09-Feb-16 21:08:07

After a couple of days if she's eating bad food then give her a couple of pounds extra "for spot cream".

HormonalHeap Tue 09-Feb-16 21:31:17

My ds same age is like this. If I don't cook he just buys crisps. Won't even make toast. I'm just looking forward to him going to uni and fending for himself..

specialsubject Wed 10-Feb-16 18:32:19

genius. Stroppy brat, take no prisoners!

letting this go on does her no favours, as well as being unpleasant for you.

NaturalBlondeYeahRight Wed 10-Feb-16 19:47:20

Bloody hell this is hard, she woke up defiant and said she's not cooking - gave me back the £10. This strengthened my resolve as I think if an apology had turned up then I might have caved. I cooked dinner this evening for everyone else and she just lounged around making sure we could see she wasn't eating.
I asked what she was having and she said 'I can't cook so I'm not having anything'..... looking wistfully into distance

If I don't follow this through now, then I lose respect, don't I? She didn't even try. Bet she's got some sort of stash in her bedroom.
Ahhhggg wine.

IHaveBrilloHair Wed 10-Feb-16 19:56:19

The stash probably is biscuit crumbs and toast crusts under her bed, which she will eat if desperate and her room gers a bit cleaner.
You win grin

Dancingqueen17 Sun 14-Feb-16 10:14:52

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Bloodybridget Sun 14-Feb-16 15:18:12

It seemed like such a good response, I hope things worked out!

rainbowstardrops Wed 17-Feb-16 15:42:22

Hope it's going ok op and your DD now appreciates your dinners grin

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