My son (nearly 12) is in Y7. He had a rough ride socially at primary school as there were no other quiet, studious, 'non-footbally' boys in his class. He really looked forward to going to secondary as he was excited about making new friends, something which he's never had a problem with outside of school.
All seemed to be going well, but the boys that he seemed (at least on the surface) to have made friends with are now being really abusive to him and are excluding him from their circle. Apparently he's 'not cool enough'. His dad and I have pointed out that we're all geeks in our family, and if being in with the 'cool kids' means being as horrid/arrogant as they are, then it's better to not be their friends. He does seem to have some lovely (more geeky) friends in his class. He seems reluctant to let go of wanting to be 'in' with them, though. I found him googling 'how to be cool' last night, which broke my heart.
Can someone who's gone through this just reassure me that this is all normal stuff? It feels like there's nothing his Dad and I can do to help him.
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CharlieA · 25/01/2016 10:40
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