Ds wants to leave college. No idea what else he can do(16 Posts)
I don't have a teenager who dropped out of college but I was that teen.
I started an apprenticeship and it set me up with a career which I really enjoy. Dropping out of college was the best decision I made at the time, even my mum would agree now.
Could the tutors find someone to support him either a classmate or could the college provide a support worker?
I would get the local paper and sit down with him and look for jobs or voluntary work. Perhaps a couple of years out in the workforce will help. He can always go back to college at a later date. M&S Are quite good at supporting young people. Charities for voluntary work where he can gain skills where people are patient and willing to support young people. Ask him to give it until February half term as college is a big change for any 16 year old and if he is still unhappy you could agree to him leaving. This gives you a bit of time where he also has to be pro active to find something else. Good luck. One of my children didn't do well because of bullying and just got a job. I'm just pleased he has a job. He has changed jobs and recently was made up to a supervisor which initially and in his last job refused. It has taken him a long time and some work from his boss for him to realise he can do this. At the end of the day he is reasonably happy. He has a job, a few close friends pays his rent and copes with life which is more than I hoped for when he left at 16.
Op not sure where you are based, but there are different rules in different areas of UK regarding when you can leave education. In England, you must either be in FT education or work/volunteering with some PT education (eg apprenticeship) until 18. The www.Gov.uk site gives more info for different parts of UK.
Realistically, do you think he would cope with an apprenticeship given his current response to social situations? In our area there's not a lot else out there for academically able teenagers.
My ds was taken off his college course due to illness related absences (he has chronic pain, made worse by anxiety and is also on the waiting list to be assessed for asd). We are in England and although everyone told us he had to be in an education, training course or apprenticeship they couldn't find anything suitable.
Funding is available to support young people with poor English and Maths so there are a lot of level one schemes aimed at achieving functional skills that are not suitable for someone who has 5 or more GCSEs at C+ including Maths and English. Other schemes seem to cater for the "disaffected" and/or look mainly at employability which was no good for my ds as he isn't disaffected and isn't currently in a position to attend work regularly.
In the absence of any LA careers support there is a charity in our area that provides support and advice to young people in finding suitable placements/training/jobs. Is there anything like that near you where ds can discuss his options before quitting his current course?
Having looked at all the other options my ds is due to go back to college to take just one A level with a view to adding more next year. It's not his desired outcome, but there is nothing else remotely suitable in our area.
Hi jelly, another life ruiner here! We only got to an acceptance of returning to college by systematically investigating all the alternatives and coming to the conclusion that they would not work. Would your son be up for this? It does require a degree of self-knowledge.
We've many times been down the route of making plans that were probably unrealistic because ds was convinced all would be well. It's a fine line between encouraging someone who's reluctant to take risks to try something new and ending up supporting the unachievable. But as a parent I'm scared that my ds could just give up and and never leave the house. Fortunately he is still motivated to get an education.
Would your ds look at voluntary opportunities? Are there any local parent support groups for parents of asd children who might have expertise of 16+ young people dropping out of college and finding alternatives?
Ah yes I've had the "you don't understand because you're old" accusation.
Is there any career office or job centre you could take him to and face up to it with someone else? Was there any staff member at school that he could go back and talk to?
Get him to do the washing up and mop the floor because you're too "old and tired" after making the tea!
I would tell him that of course he can leave college.
Once he's applied for an apprenticeship, been for the interview, and has a start date.
Maybe that could take some of the heat out the situation.
Encourage him to register on apprenticeships.org. He will be able to see what apprenticeships are available, location, hours and wages. Apprenticeships can be up to 40 hours per week. There are some great apprenticeships out there, some less so. Shop carefully!
He could even apply, go through the process but still keep his college place until he is sure he wants to leave for a 'better' prospect. This way he keeps his options open.
At the moment you're trying to convince him what's best. If he sees the alternatives then may be he can decide the best environment for him.
If he's determined to leave then their are various confidence building team work type courses around. Your local careers service should be able to help. Even the college perhaps.
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