Ds2 has become increasingly withdrawn. He has relatively mild ASD so social interactions have always been tricky but in the last 18 months or so he's completely opted out. The last time he was invited anywhere was to one of his old primary school friend's birthday celebrations when he was in Y8 (he's now in Y11).
He does have a group of similarly geeky friends in school but never wants to see them out of school. Until last year I'd take a group of them out for pizza and cinema for his birthday but none of them has ever reciprocated and this year he didn't want to do anything.
All his interactions outside the family are via the computer - he plays no sports any more or has any hobbies apart from gaming.
He was in a cricket team for several years which he enjoyed in his own way but despite seeing the same boys every weekend over the summer season for 5 years he never made friends with any of them or even talked to them other than in the context of the game, and last year the team manager said they wouldn't be able to accommodate him any more as he wasn't good enough.
If left to his own devices he would be sat at the computer all day every day. We've imposed a curfew and insisted he leaves his laptop with us at night (he was creeping downstairs at 2am to get it when we just left it in the kitchen).
He seems really unhappy (he often cries or gets very angry) but doesn't seem to want to do anything constructive about it. I am at a loss as to how to help him.
He hates school and is doing the bare minimum for his GCSEs so although he's unlikely to fail any as he's extremely bright, he's also unlikely to get anything like the grades he should be aiming for
Sorry this is so long- I'm just feeling a bit helpless about it all
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Noitsnotteatimeyet · 31/12/2015 09:09
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