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bmoutoux · 21/12/2015 20:07

If I find tobaco products in my 18 year olds bed room can I confiscate them

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Sparklingbrook · 21/12/2015 20:12

Is this a bedroom in your house?

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SparklyTinselTits · 21/12/2015 20:15

At 18? Not really. As long as he/she is not smoking in your house then there's not really much you can do about it.....
(I am a smoker, my parents have known since I was about 15, but I have never once smoked in front of either of them because I know they don't like it)

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TaintedAngel · 21/12/2015 20:18

Nope. At 18 it is their choice, not yours.
You can only demand its not used inside your house.

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VulcanWoman · 21/12/2015 20:37

No, but you can insist on not in the house.

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bmoutoux · 21/12/2015 23:01

as long as they do not use it in the house is it illegal to take it from them or is that for me to decide?

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TaintedAngel · 22/12/2015 00:50

iirc its illegal for you to 'take' property belonging to someone else that they have paid for with their own money. You would essentially be talking about stealing from an adult in theory, regardless of that adult being your kid.

Now even for talking sake you still give your 18yo money to get by, and it's that money they are using to buy tobacco.... it still makes no difference as that money becomes his when you gift it to him. Only exception to this is when you agree prior to exchanging money what its exact purpose is for and clauses of receiving it.

I may be wrong but i think that's the legal stance.... I'm sure more experienced people will be able to correct me if i have just watched too much judge Judy...

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SparklyTinselTits · 22/12/2015 07:43

Regardless of whether it's illegal for you to confiscate or not, at 18, the person in question is an adult. It's not illegal for he/she to buy or smoke tobacco. As I said before, as long as he/she is not smoking in your house, there really isn't anything you can do.
Even if you disagreed with a co-worker smoking for example, then you wouldnt go through their desk and confiscate cigarettes would you? IMO it's exactly the same thing. Your "child" is now an adult, and it's definitely not ok to go snooping through their stuff, especially when nothing illegal is going on.

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