DD 13, though generally a really good kid, who rarely gives us any problems, but she is being a total brattish mare, with bad attitude if I dare speak out of line, don't respond quick enough etc ATM - I usually don't mess around with consequences for bad behaviour & it's served us well as she knows the score.
Examples - she has a friend over, a big deal for her ATM, as I will explain below. I've offered that she can order a pizza for her & her friend, not something we would normally do, so it's a big treat for her. She has allergies, so I suggested she check the websites first - I then realised that the big chain pizza place she wants to order from, is more than twice the price of her favourite pizza restaurant, who deliver via another site - queue snarly sarcastic hissy fit because I even dare suggest that I'm not paying for 2 nasty pizza from the chain, with the extras we are looking at about £40, when she can get the same, better quality food at half the price.
Her Santa list is a bit confusing & having looked at one of the make up palettes she has listed, I tried to talk to her about choosing palettes with colours that might actually use - explain that it's expensive & I don't spend that sort of money on my own make up & certainly not to just get wasted - queue hissy fit about my "guilt tripping her"
She tells me to stick it all, she wants nothing if I can't just be nice about it & get what she asks for - boy is that tempting this week
it's Xmas, we are not well off & where the hell did my usual oh so grateful daughter go & who left me this spoilt brat instead
I know this is normal teen stuff & I pick my battles, stick to my guns on the important stuff etc, but we are just not in normal circumstances & it is so bloody hard to know what to do for the best.
She has been ill since February, plus an injury that won't heal since early April, she's now in a wheelchair & in constant pain with a host of other problems, such as dizziness, nausea, anxiety & insomnia. As a result she has had her life ripped out from under her feet, no longer able to go to school, too ill to see friends often & generally just isn't able to do the young teen stuff she should be doing at this age,so it has been a totally awful year for her & us. I've had to let so many house rules slide in favour of distracting her from pain, screen time for example is now up to her as it takes her mind of things. She obviously can't do chores if she can barely get herself to the toilet - so it's just impossible to keep a normal balance & we are learning as we go
In different circumstances, there is no way in hell would she be getting a pizza after the way she has just spoken to me in front of her friend. She wouldn't be getting the make up palette or any of the other things she has been so damned rude about - I'm ill myself & it's a huge effort for me - but then I remember the kind of year she has had & feel so bloody awful even thinking about it.
Is anyone else dealing with teens in this situation & how the hell do you cope with this sort of discipline
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Young Teen, Health Problems & Dealing With "Attitude" at Xmas ???
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RockinHippy · 18/12/2015 15:45
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