Yes, that old one.
DD who should be getting all As-As is on course for Bs, Cs and Ds. She needs 6 Bs to get into her sixth form, which she may well not get, but has made no other plans as assumed she would get that easily. She's Oxbridge material (I went there and she's as brighter than me) and had said she didn't want to go there but would rather go to a nice (ie Russell Group) uni elsewhere, assuming blithely that that was an 'easy' alternative - when in reality with the grades she's now on course to get she wouldn't stand a chance with any Russell Group unis. Plus if she doesn't get As in certain subjects at GCSE, even if she does get into the sixth form she she won't be able to do any of the A Levels she wants anyway and will be left with PE etc (it's an academic school so they don't really offer any alternatives to an academic route eg BTECS etc.
She's just discovered a social life and boys, which doesn't help, but was hopelessly disorganised before that. She seems to think you can do the work for GCSEs the night before an exam and get an A - doesn't seem to understand it doesn't work like that (esp where coursework is concerned).
Help! Am cross and my natural tendency is to tell her off for failing to put any effort in and make her sit down and do 2-3 hour stints of homework under my eye a night, until her exams. But that goes against my principles, which to date have been to assume it's her responsibility (which is how she got into this mess). No way she's going to achieve what she's capable of with the huge gaps in her work but would be nice if she could come out with enough to get her into the 6th form at least and the opportunity to do the A Levels of her choice.
So should I leave her to sort it out unaided? Offer support if wanted and healthy snacks (forgot to say she's largely stopped eating or eats random crap)? Organise her life for her?
Please tell me what to do - can't think clearly.
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Bright teen falling massively behind coming up to GCSEs - to get involved or butt out?
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nonnomnom · 27/11/2015 20:30
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