Hello,
My son really does "talk to me" so I am lucky that I even know that he is considering having sex pre- 16. (I also work in education so know I am lucky here).
I also know the law in case anyone is wondering I don't. I am fully aware of their age and implications.
HENCE my question as I have been losing sleep as a parent over this.
My dilemna, of course, is that he is under 16, as by law I can not "condone" sex under 16.
He has shared with me tonight that wants to have sex with his girlfriend soon - he has actually said they are planning it very soon!- they are ready - she has already done it before with someone else
and this is the real task ...
He asked today if I could get him condoms. As he wants to make sure he does the right thing and it is safe (think he is thinking more birth control than sexual safety at the moment).
I told him to go to Welfare at school and ask for them there- too embarrassing apparently. [Big grin] I had hoped to push him done the obvious route first. He is at a college for 14-19 years olds, so all very grown up already!
Unbeknown to him there is a pack of condoms I bought today in supermarket ( they had alarm lock on them so had be be released by a member of staff!) hidden away at home. I actually am shocked than a) I bought them and b) at some point soon we will have conversation about condoms!!!!
I want to have another conversation this weekend with him properly. I did not have have sex young. Obviously he is ready to. I want to do the right thing here.
I REALLY have said all the right things; I honestly have. His younger sister is only 11 and just started Secondary and I am very conscious of what he says and does around her, being that bit older. He knows this too and is respectful of that.
I am being too REASONABLE? Or should I accept that some 15 yr olds have sex and I am at least getting him to talk to me, say what he intends to do and ask for help in making sure he is protecting both of them?
I am looking for some solid advice here rather than people quoting me the law ( of which I am fully aware) .
I always thought I would quote the law to my kids , but now I am in this situation and it is real, this feels quite different.
advice and help needed please
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15+ but NOT 16 yet wanting to have sex - Dilemna
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QuartzUcan · 20/11/2015 21:38
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