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First truancy

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DolorestheNewt Fri 20-Nov-15 10:10:10

DS, 12, Year 8, called me yesterday lunchtime to say that he'd only just got to school and that he'd got on the wrong train. As the day wore on, I realised that his story wasn't quite adding up. In short, he'd clearly agreed with another boy to get on a train to a destination 50 miles away, and come back (without leaving the station, as their travelcards wouldn't have got them through the barriers), before going into school. Fairly mild as truancy goes. I suspect they sat in a platform Starbucks for a while before returning to get their train to school. By the time he got home, he'd also been reprimanded by a teacher for disorganisation with homework, and had had a tearful meltdown in his drama lesson as a consequence. So he confessed all to DH. I haven't seen him because I have been at work.

If I ring the school and tell them that it wasn't accidental, I'm dropping the other boy in it. I'm also dropping the other boy in it if I call his parents, because AFAIK the other boy has continued the pretence with his parents that it was accidental. Is it completely unreasonable of me to just deal with it by disciplining him here at home (no xBox, washing my car etc.) and not call the school or the other boy's parents? Or am I being completely mad? I do remember how important it seemed, as a teen girl, that you kept the secrets of the coven and didn't tell your parents, which obviously is going to be trashed if I ring the other boy's parents and drop him in it.

WWYD? Flame if you must. I'm really uncertain of my ground here.

WinterBabyof89 Fri 20-Nov-15 10:16:26

I'd deal with it at home and leave it at that - on this occasion. Wouldn't inform school/other family.

Glad he caved though grin

DolorestheNewt Fri 20-Nov-15 10:23:33

Thanks, WinterBaby.

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