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How long to you leave your 14 year old on their own?

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ifonly4 Wed 11-Nov-15 14:27:36

So far it's been 1-2 hours but I've always been local. Looking into working more hours, but just wondering what others do. I totally trust DD and know a few people locally who she could phone for help if there was a problem reaching us.

shutupanddance Wed 11-Nov-15 14:31:55

Good few hours.

Flyonthewindscreen Wed 11-Nov-15 15:21:52

I have a 13 year old DS and already leave him on own up to a half day occasionally.

Sparklingbrook Wed 11-Nov-15 15:24:12

Same as Kamer, definitely half a day no problem. With a few groundrules.

FreckledLeopard Wed 11-Nov-15 15:25:57

All day. I work full time, DD is 14 and has been left home alone since 12 when I've been at work.

She sleeps until 2pm during holidays anyhow, so only has to entertain herself for a few hours until I get home.

balletgirlmum Wed 11-Nov-15 15:29:13

Dd is in year 9 & turned 14 last month.

I left her all day whilst I worked last summer holidays but only half a day if Ds (age 11) was with her.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 11-Nov-15 15:32:08

Dd has been left all day in school holidays since she was 11yo.

exexpat Wed 11-Nov-15 15:35:12

DD is 13 and I have left her all day before now - she is sensible and is fine with it. It depends a lot on the child.

SofiaAmes Wed 11-Nov-15 15:40:35

It depends on the 14 year old. I have been leaving my just barely 13 year old dd on her own for significant periods of time (I'm always at the end of a mobile) since she was 9 or 10. She even saved someone's life a few weeks ago while on her own. (She insisted on called an ambulance when the woman told her she had been stung by a bee and was highly allergic but had forgotten her epi pen at home and asked dd for a benadryl. After taking the benadryl, she insisted she felt better, but dd called me and said she was still worried and I said to call an ambulance anyway, which she did. The woman went into full anaphylactic shock in the ambulance on the way to the hospital.) But I wouldn't leave my ds alone at the same age or for very long even now and he's almost 15.

Kim82 Wed 11-Nov-15 15:43:31

Ds is 14 and in year 10. He was left from 9am - 2pm from being 11 while dh and I were at work (I left at 9, dh was home by 2).

Now I'm a sahm he is sometimes left for the day if we go for a day out and he doesn't want to come, he is also left in the house in the evening until midnight-ish either on his own or with a friend if dh and I go out - the younger 3 stay out at grandparent's houses.

Stoneagemum Wed 11-Nov-15 15:43:53

1-2 days (shoot me now!) I have been away overnight for work and left ds when 14 alone with telephone checks from me ad gp's.

TurnOffTheTv Wed 11-Nov-15 15:46:45

All day. I would expect this question for a 11/12 year old, 14 is quite old to have only been left home alone for an hour.

momb Wed 11-Nov-15 16:15:09

All day

bigTillyMint Wed 11-Nov-15 16:22:26

Well my two are usually together or in/out - leave either/both all day quite happily. Also we go out and leave one/both home alone till we come in at 12/1am. Haven't yet left my 16yo overnight, but would be happy to now.

AnyoneButAndre Wed 11-Nov-15 16:28:06

My 13.4 year old is pretty scatty and I'm just about to start leaving her 9-2 occasionally in the hols.

bigTillyMint Wed 11-Nov-15 16:32:56

Well my two are usually together or in/out - leave either/both all day quite happily. Also we go out and leave one/both home alone till we come in at 12/1am. Haven't yet left my 16yo overnight, but would be happy to now.

CPtart Wed 11-Nov-15 16:45:07

Leave my 12 year old for 2-3 hours, and we are pretty rural.

JustDanceAddict Wed 11-Nov-15 16:57:18

DD is 13 and I'd leave her for half a day no probs. 3-4 hours? I'd make sure we were in touch if any issues arose. She's sensible and can make herself a meal, etc.

Obs2015 Wed 11-Nov-15 17:09:44

Why have you only left fur an hour or do up until now OP? That seems too short a time.
I have left ds1 at home all day recently , whilst I was a work, minutes away - and he is very young. He got the bus to the local town to see the James Bond film. He loved it and was proud and felt grown up.

BackforGood Wed 11-Nov-15 20:34:22

All day.
1 - 2 hours is surely the time you can leave them when they are about 9 ?

KatharineClifton Wed 11-Nov-15 20:39:03

I'll leave my almost 14 year olds for a morning shift as they sleep through most of it anyway before I get back for 2. If I'm on a late finishing at 10 I take them to my mum's.

All teens are different though so see what yours would be happy with? Mine were a bit scared when I started work tbh, but they've coped and now used to it.

lljkk Wed 11-Nov-15 20:44:58

All day, younger than 14, too. Depends on kid & all that, obviously.

KatharineClifton Wed 11-Nov-15 20:59:35

I would of thought all teens this age are left home alone when parents are at work and there is no school - there isn't childcare for this age is there?

Sparklingbrook Wed 11-Nov-15 21:08:17

the other thing to consider is that some children at that age don't want to be in the house alone. Especially after dark.

motherwithheadache Wed 11-Nov-15 21:40:09


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