i'm a NC regular
my dd is 13.
she is on the iPhone ALL the time when at home, although we have a strict ban for an hour before bed. and no phones in bedrooms. she will go on it for hours and is grumpy as hell if we interrupt or suggest she does something else.
she's obsessed with social media and chatting to her friends. she agonises about what others think and and how they rate her contributions to instagram.
we have recently discovered that she and a boy at school had been sending potentially unsuitable (but not nude) selfies, but have no way to see exactly what pictures contained. however, the thread read in a worrying way. this has had consequences at school (gossip etc).
we have now deleted snapchat, which she actually suggested as she was so mortified about the selfies.
we obviously had a long, frank talk about keeping her safe and she has learned from the experience and assured us that she has never met up with the boy in question outside school. btw i am convinced that she is still very innocent but has got swept along with the current trend for sending pictures.
however, she has now started to say how left out she feels as others are constantly on snap chat.
i feel so strongly that the potential for this whole social media thing to impact on emotional health of teens. dd has ocd and other anxiety issues, so i just feel that she is the worst type of person to be able to handle this.
dd has no interests other than phone, social media, make up and shopping.
this may be 'normal' but it is depressing as hell.
i am tempted to pay (bribe) her an alluring sum of money e.g. £150 to go cold turkey with all social media. is that crazy? i'm just so desperately sad that she's growing up so fast and see the social media as really toxic (unless you are the kind of person that can handle it well).
advice please, as i'm literally losing sleep over this.
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PrittyStick · 05/11/2015 09:39
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