It seems most people have the opposite problem...hoping to get some helpful advice!
My 18 year old stepson moved in with my husband and me almost 2 years ago (previously had him 3-4 days a week).
My husband and I both work full time, our 7 year old goes to school, our 18 year old is home all day. For the past several months, he waits at the door for my husband to get home from work - once he arrives home, my stepson does not leave his side unless one of them goes to the bathroom - not exaggerating - connected to his side every second of everyday until my husband goes to bed or falls asleep on the couch.
It's to the point now where it's suffocating. He's always right there. There's no chance of a private conversation between my husband and me, it's not possible to spend any alone time, our 7 year old doesn't get any alone time with him...our 18 year old is with him and follows him everywhere he goes-like they're conjoined. Even when I think I can preoccupy our 18 year old and sneak 2 min of my husband's time...nope here he comes rushing over.
Our 7 year old doesn't even act this way....
My husband seems oblivious or simply doesn't mind - asks me personal questions and private questions while our 18 year old is standing by. Absolutely no privacy so I choose not to talk to my husband about private things that I don't want our 18 year old involved in. My husband handles him with little tiny baby kid gloves. I can't come up with a nice way to tell our 18 year old to find something to do. He has nothing to do - nowhere to go...my husband doesn't seem to mind him sitting at home all day with no ambition to do anything even though he's extremely smart. It's starting to get irritating and I'm losing connection with my husband.
I know it's good to have your kids want to hang out with you - and I know most parents wish their teens would do it more...but this is overboard and suffocating!!
Any advice is welcome!
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Bluemoon35 · 04/11/2015 18:24
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