Hi all,
This is a bit of a long story so I'll try and shorten it.
Five years ago I got divorced after my ex-husband left me for another woman. I tried to keep things amicable but my ex didn't want to know. My daughter and son took it badly and I was left to pick up the pieces. My son, who was 15 at the time, began verbally abusing me, and my ex refused to support me with him. Eventually my son left to go and live with his father and the woman. That was three and a half years ago. During that time, neither my son or my ex contacted me, and my ex even moved my son to a different school without telling me.I messaged my son regularly, sending birthday and Christmas cards and gifts, even though I got nothing back. I refused to give up on him.
Two weeks ago, completely out of the blue, my son messaged me to say 'emotionally', he could not live in that house any longer. He was redoing his final year at school and he hated it. Every day was a battle for him and he didn't know what to do with his life.
He apologized for being a bad son to me but wanted to know if I would help him. I didn't hesitate and he is now back home. His father has not contacted me to ask how he is, which I'm not surprised about. However, I am very concerned about my son. For the past few days, he has stayed in bed all day, just getting up for dinner in the evening. He hasn't showered for a few days either. I have tried to get him to come out with me or his friends but he doesn't want to do anything. He just says he feels under the weather.
I don't want to nag him as he had only been back two weeks, but I just don't know what to do. Should I let him settle in for another few weeks?
My daughter is at uni so doesn't come back every week. She hasn't seen her father for two years, her choice. I have never stopped either of my children from seeing their father. It is their choice.
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.
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Kittiecatt21 · 30/10/2015 14:09
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