Conduct Disorder/ODD

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D age 13 has had an assessment for ADHD but Psychiatrist has concluded Conduct Disorder or ODD. I am new to the site but would like to talk to parents of teenagers in a similar situation on how best to manage /parent/ keep young person in mainstream school and somehow still learning new skills - daily life is currently and always has been tough because of constant defiance and manipulation and now violence - what would really help is hearing of some support or even a young person who comes out the other end e.g. does okay