Yesterday my 19 year old dd had a major tantrum over the fact that i had not ironed her work clothes. She arrived home late last night ( it was her day off) and indignantly asked if there was a reason I had not ironed her clothes for work, when I explained that I was not her maid, she threw an almighty tantrum, calling me fxxxing lazy bitch. Then she said ( and these words hurt me the most) that I am a waste of space of a mother.
What she said has no reflection of the truth, I am in fact very extremely house proud. However I have noticed recently that my daughter has been treating me with contempt, she even suggested I find a summer job ( I have six weeks off as I work in school) . A few weeks ago I suggested that she starts to pay rent and she reacted with saying I could have ÂŁ50:00 a month as I don't do anything for her. I'm not sure how she thinks the food arrives in the house, the house gets cleaned and her clothes are washed and ( usually ironed! As she doesn't do any of those things) she does often cook her own food as I'm never sure when she will be home. She now earns the same as me. She is off on her second holiday this year soon, where as I can't even afford one holiday.
I feel like that I need to grow a back bone and be more firm, but that just ends badly. My dh has recently been told that he is going to be made redundant, he has been the main bread earner so we do have that stress at the moment , however my wages can cover all the bills, but I think at 19 my dd should help financially, but my dh is struggling to agree as he feels like he's failed some how to ask her to contribute. So if I'm going to get tough I'm not going to get support from him- so I've come back, once again to mn for support please. Really I know what I should do but as its not going to be well received, I just need to know I'm on the right tracks and not being too harsh or too soft, as I'm going to be doing this on my own . Any suggestion are welcome.
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summer68 · 04/08/2015 10:13
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