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Rock bottom !

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laura43 · 12/07/2015 14:37

DD 14 (Middle child) has always been quite spirited but things are getting worse and it shames me to say I don't like the person she has become.

She is very bitchy and quite likes to intimidate others. She likes it that her group are "hard" and relishes in arguments and dramas both at home and socially. Every time she leaves the house there is trouble but even when she stays in she is ranting and raving about some argument or another. If there is no drama she seems flat when arguing she is hyper, animated and almost buzzing with the excitement of it. I have had many calls of complaints from other parents, school and my friends don't enjoy popping over anymore. My other dc's friends also avoid coming over! When I sanction she threatens to run away or kill herself but I persevere and do sanction but it makes little difference. She is so negative I tread on eggshells around her and this can't continue. I feel our relationship has deteriorated so much she is only interested in what people can provide her with so won't spend time with family unless she gains a clothes shop out of it. She has always been quite challenging in relation to others her age but used to be sunny natured and really good company.

OP posts:
Yorkshirebornandbread · 13/07/2015 20:55

Hi - my dd was lovely till about 12/13 but since then have had some really tricky times with friendships, social media etc. no advice really apart from trying not to get caught up in her dramas. Could you reward her for having a good day with no arguments?

laura43 · 14/07/2015 15:31

I do not want to get caught up in them, but am left with little choice when called by other parents/school! She has actually been on quite good form since I removed her phone on Sunday. She is actually chatty and polite, this has happened when phones gone before. Makes it tempting to not give it back , no phone seems to ease the dramas!

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Yorkshirebornandbread · 14/07/2015 22:21

Hopefully that will do the trick.

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