Don't think I can live like this anymore

[Ghostlife]

Son aged 16 is having relationship problems with a girlfriend. Can't say anything without him misinterpreting it and ending up shouting abuse at me. Had it until 2 am this morning. My crime? Asking for his girlfriend to return one of his tops. Which he said I was accusing her of stealing.

I cannot cope with walking on eggshells around him I feel like a servant that has to do all the work but is not allowed to speak or stand up for themselves when falsely accused of something.

[Seriouslyffs]

Hello lovely. Hope you got to sleep.
Picking battles and turning a blind eye has never been so essential.
In this case maybe refusing to engage/ commenting might have worked,'my request really upset you', 'you're very loyal to Mandy', 'I'm going to bed now'
I don't know, teenagers are unpredictable aren't they?

[furrylittlecreatures]

Oh I do feel your pain. There is a big thread on here filled with stories like this. When I read it it always cheers me up that I am not alone. It's safe and supportive thread with very little judgement. If you haven't read through it and you will see there are lots of us living like this. In terms of how to deal with him I don't have any other than moving and not leaving a forward address seriously though as the other poster mentioned about picking your battles I try and do this to but it's hard!! Oh that thread is called being in an abusive relationship with dc.

[Ghostlife]

Thanks for your replies. The problem is he wants his girlfriend here all the time for example 5 am to 8 pm and if I say no I have him shouting and waking up the neighbours because apparently if I don't allow it their relationship may not survive.

I have no money to go on holiday so I am stuck in the house with an unwelcome guest. His siblings don't want her here either.

The shouting has made me worried that one of the neighbours may have called noise department at the council or the police or social services. He uses this fear to control me. Therefore I have to give in as the neighbours have work and school. If I lived in a rural cottage with no neighbours I would just ignore the shouting.