Ideas to ease a bullied dc back into school

[Slippersmum]

I have spoken about my dcs panic attacks on another thread. She is currently not in school as a result of long term bullying. It seems like she has reached her emotional limit. Do people have suggestions for me to take to this weeks meeting in terms of protecting her and ensuring it goes ok. She is very scared and doesn't want to go back

[LashesandLipstick]

Is it the same school? If it is don't send her back. The term is nearly over anyway

[Slippersmum]

Yes same school. I have thought of that myself but wasn't sure

[LashesandLipstick]

I'd keep her off until September. And possibly look for somewhere else to send her. How old is she?

[Slippersmum]

I have asked her about moving schools but she doesn't want to move mainly I think because of her anxiety eg change is hard. Also we live in a very small town so would need to travel some distance to the next school which has a terribly negative reputation. Thanks so much for your replies

[Slippersmum]

Forgot to say she is 13.

[TheFirstOfHerName]

DS1 hasn't been bullied but does have panic disorder. This term he has been attending school full-time but he only goes into 2/3 of his timetabled lessons. For the three subjects he found most stressful, he has a combination of 1:1 with an LSA or self-directed learning in the library. He is hoping to integrate back into those lessons in Sept. Could you ask for something like that?

He also has a card he can use to get out of any lesson at any time without having to ask or put his hand up. He doesn't need to use it v.often as the very fact he has it seems to help.

[LashesandLipstick]

In that case talk to the school about providing alternatives. Legally they have to give her an education. If they're not making the school a nice environment then they have to provide one in one teaching or something similar.

I had a similar experience to your daughter and the school handled it terribly. Don't let them fob you off

[Slippersmum]

Exactly. We are were we are due to school handling it terrible which has led to what I can only describe as my daughter having an 'emotional meltdown'. What did you to get her back to education? Thanks again

[LashesandLipstick]

I didn't go back until I was 16, self taught myself my GCSEs (wouldn't recommend this) and got enough to get into a different sixth form. Once there it was fine

However I'd really push the school to provide an education for her. They can do this in another building away from the school so it won't feel like school

[EE123]

Could you use the summer to try and get her some help to deal with the anxiety? You would also need to meet with the school in the fall to put together a plan to help her acclimate in the fall. Can she do some online work over the summer? It may build her self confidence before school so she doesnt feel like she is behind.