Getting my teenage daughter to stop living life through a screen
Getting her to understand with rights come responsibilities
Giving her the space she wants without failing her e.g. letting her read the latest kindle book might mean short term affection from her but won't save her from failing an exam due to not revising
Fitting in - clothes, cliques, appearance, gadgets
shallow shallow shallow
The constant nagging*
*Her control freak mum nagging her about getting up on time, going to bed on time, getting off her kindle/phone, doing her homework, packing her bag, giving me her washing, having a shower, not being hateful to her siblings
leaving her room ever
Endless testing
3.
I'll get back to you on that one
I love my kids. End. I don't expect anything from them, they owe me nothing. Whilst having a child is actually quite narcissistic and selfish when you look at it, my kids are their own person, not mini-mes.
And I expect nothing per se from parenting, as I was kind of an accidental parent. Parenting is hard, costly and largely unthanked. But you love your kids so you grit your teeth and get on with it.
In that regard anything and everything becomes a bonus....a gummy grin, Mummy you smell of flowers, you're 36 (I'm 44), little hands wrapped around your neck to whisper something to you. Pictures, lazy duvet days, a grudging thank you, you did a great job of my poster I asked you to help me with
do for me (yep,that was my teen again), parenting gifts you these moments.
They screw you up, your mum and dad....all I can hope, like others, is that I have Done Enough.