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Controlling father

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Worriedworried1969 · 09/02/2015 13:29

My parents live abroad and my Mum has been diagnosed with brain cancer (having a crainiotomy this week).

My Father is very controlling and keeps trying to put me off visiting. I just want to see my Mum before her op - anything could happen and I just want to spend a little time with her. My father says he has got enough to do without me visiting.

I will stay in a hotel nearby and hire a car - I only want to pop in, not stay.

Am I being unfair?

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cdtaylornats · 09/02/2015 16:11

Go!
Your Dad will get over your disobedience, if something bad happens you will be bitter towards him.

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Kleinzeit · 09/02/2015 17:32

Go and visit. You shouldn’t need your father’s permission to visit your own mother. Sometimes all you can do with controlling people is to be very very firm with them - you are not asking him if you can visit, you are simply telling him that you are coming to see her.

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Travelledtheworld · 10/02/2015 05:57

Go, you have every right to see your Mum and tell her how much you love her.

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TheLastThneed · 10/02/2015 06:12

Don't let him stop you from visiting your mother. As Klein says, you don't need permission.

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ephpa95 · 11/02/2015 14:38

Go. He is probably really stressed, and if you organise yourself in such a way that it will not any extra burden on him, then he can't complain. She's your mum. Keinzeit is right.

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