DD is 13 (Y8) and has never been self-motivated with homework but up to now she's always been happy enough to do it when asked.
Since around November she's started protesting when I ask her to get on with her homework, so at the start of this term I said fine - it's your homework you do it when you want. Anyway the first bit of homework of the year wasn't done. No excuses - she had ages and it would have only taken 10 mins. She just couldn't be bothered to do it.
For the next two weeks we just had daily arguments and grumpiness if I even asked her what homework she had. I got "You don't trust me" "It's none of your business" etc etc.
So last week we had a sensible discussion, and she said that she hates me interfering and that she can do it on her own and she doesn't need nagging. So I agreed, and said we'd give it until half term and see how she did, but my line in the sand is that she does need to do her homework.
It's been a week now. She has a big project due in Tuesday and three other bits due in this week, and I am pretty sure she's not done any of it or started her project.
I am desperately trying to stick to the agreement and not say a word, but I'm really twitching! Am I right to let her fail to hand it in and let the school deal with it?
The problem is that a) I don't really trust the school to impose punishments. She has form for getting away with things because she has a good reputation and b) if they do punish her, she'll just decide that they all hate her and it's all soooo unfair!
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Am I handling this homework situation wrongly?
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OccamsLadyshave · 25/01/2015 18:20
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