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DS (15) keeps picking on younger brother.

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CarolDW Sun 28-Dec-14 18:47:02

I'm not sure what to do with him here, his brother is 10 years old and he constantly mistreats him and bosses him around, I keep telling him of for it but he just seems to be ignoring me. How do I get him to stop ?

ssd Sun 28-Dec-14 18:51:58

God knows, I have this too, will listen in...

LoveVintage Sun 28-Dec-14 18:53:24

God knows, another one watching for the answer....

TheFirstOfHerName Sun 28-Dec-14 20:21:44

DS1 (nearly 15) and DS3 (10) can clash. They are quite similar in personality, and just seem to wind each other up. DS3 provokes DS1 until he physically retaliates, but is half his size.

Tiredemma Sun 28-Dec-14 20:22:56

Same here (ds1 14 and ds2 11)

Sparklingbrook Sun 28-Dec-14 20:26:37

It's been bickering central here for the last few days. DSs 13 and 15. I do think christmas has made it worse.
Ds2 gives as good as he gets though.

ssd Sun 28-Dec-14 21:27:50

in our house, ds2 is much smaller than ds1 but still loves to wind big brother up, and ds1 usually ignores him with disdain, but sometimes it gets too much and I have to separate them, ds2 usually screaming MUM, then when I appear he giggles as he's just trying to get ds1 into trouble...... aaarrrggghhh!!!

Sparklingbrook Sun 28-Dec-14 21:29:00

Oh yes we have that too ssd. DS2 knows exactly how to press Ds1's buttons to the point he snaps.

ssd Sun 28-Dec-14 21:31:37

whats it like when you have people over? here ds1 16, is extremely quiet, hardly says a word or joins in, it drives me nuts, I feel its just rude, whereas ds2 13 chats away and joins in all the time! dh says they are just different and its ds1's age but it annoys me....

bloodyteenagers Sun 28-Dec-14 21:35:12

Encourage space.
When they spend too much time together they wind each other up. They get sent out to the shop, do extra chores, spend time in rooms, not as punishment.
Why don't u go and do x, or with older one have u watched x film yet? Stuff like that. They do stuff apart, and it
Calms them. Until the next time

ssd Sun 28-Dec-14 21:36:53

ds1 never leaves his room, its when they are together the fighting starts!

Heyho111 Sun 28-Dec-14 22:19:34

Please read the book siblings without rivalry. It explains why it happens and how to deal with it. It's a very good read.

ssd Sun 28-Dec-14 23:02:18

too late for that here

CarolDW Tue 30-Dec-14 14:53:08

The strange thing with the way my son bullies his younger brother is that it seems to be one way, my 10 year old never says anything unkind back or try and retaliate. He just gets upset and tells me about it all the time

CarolDW Tue 30-Dec-14 15:20:57

Even when we have relatives around he'll be calling his brother names

HouseAtreides Tue 30-Dec-14 16:24:03

DD1 (13) and DD2 (8) are around the same size and weight (DD1 is on 2nd centile). DD1 picks on DD2 relentlessly. DD2 never retaliates. She could smear DD1 into the floor if she wanted to!

despomum41 Tue 30-Dec-14 22:03:20

my dd17 and ds6 fight like cat and dog and you can clearly see that dd is the main instigator i try not to live them alone for even half a day i dont know how we survived christmas without tears from both sides

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