D's 15 wants sleepover with 15 yo female friend (who I have not met) in same room. I say no, separate rooms "we trust you but it would not be right and the girl's parents would probably not like it". He says IABU and that I don't trust him. WWYD?
I didn't let my almost 15 year old DS do this recently. I figured that even if they weren't doing anything, and had no intention of doing anything, it was still better not to give them the temptation to do anything!
I also thought about the potential faces of the girls parents next day when I explained that they had both slept overnight in DSes bedroom. Hmm.
Well I think the girl is one who recently 'asked him out' so potentially a girlfriend. The idea of sharing a room is that they watch dvds until some unholy hour and then fall asleep where they are - typical teenage sleepover. I have no plans to change my decision but just need a bit of reassurance as ds is making me feel like a cow!
Separate rooms. I'm a bit of a strict parent when it comes to things like this and I wouldn't be happy about dc sharing rooms with people until they are 18 and in a stable long term relationship. Just feels weird to me otherwise.
That's what I think duchess. I told him I might (just might) have said ok if she were a family friend and both sets of parents were happy, but I don't know her or her parents and they don't know us. I do trust him but I want to protect him.
Yes, there's a big difference between a sleepover with numerous friends of mixed gender sleeping over and one under-age couple. Try a few of the former first perhaps, and don't feel that you have anything to apologose for.
God no I would not let TWO boys sleep over in the same room as a 15 YO girl. I know what I would have done at that age......You are setting yourself up for all sorts of problems.
Yes to having them all over but give them a deadline to switch everything off and then send her to sleep in another room. And expect a lot of giggling and tiptoeing around and some horrible grumpy teens the next day.
I wouldn't let the two boys sleep in same room as the girl.. Round here the teens would think nothing of a threesome, they seem so sexually liberated nothing is sacred !
I think for the girl to it would take pressure off her to know she has her own room. My teens are older and do sometimes have girlfriends back but I always give the girls the option of their own space.
Travelled my DS is very inexperienced and so is his male friend so I think a threesome is unlikely! Point taken though I will offer her a separate room if it goes ahead (probably won't happen anyway since I am being so 'unreasonable'!) Also apparently I should pretend DH and I don't even exist when friends come over and NEVER come in to offer drinks or snacks - it would be way too embarrassing for my 15 Yo to be seen to be living in his PARENTS' house!!