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teenager worried about small boobs.(14 Posts)
i have a gorgeous 17 year old (will be 18 in May). She is really tall and slim and has fully developed - apart from her boobs. She is very flat chested and this appears to really be getting to her. I have told her she is still growing and they will come and that it doesn't really matter anyway as she's gorgeous but she is very self conscious about it and it gets her down. She thinks the answer is to go on the combined pill as all her friends are on it and they all have boobs. Unfortunately though the gp will not sprescribe the combined pill because she has factor v leiden which is a blood clotting disorder which slightly increases her chances of a blood clot. She feels like the benefits of taking the pill outweigh the risks (she also has irregular periods which we would like to regulate ) but the gp won't prescribe them. She is talking about going online and getting the pill privately. Has anyone else got a daughter with factor v? what have they done regarding the pill? she doesn't need it for contraception yet - just to regulate periods but they will only prescribe progesterone only which isn't really helping. Also any advice on the small boobs issue! I have tried convincing her its not a problem but when all your friends have them it is!!
the pill wont give her boobs necessarily anyway, it dies often make people gain weight which occasionally goes to the breasts.
What things is she interested in. Shes at a very self conscious age, but it would help if she was able to develop her own interests that are completely not to do with appearances. Sport?, art? What subjevts is she into?
There's no point colluding with her on Maybe theyll grow later, or maybe this will help. Maybevthey will and maybe they wont.
isn't there a song about 'if everybody looked the same...' explaining how ridiculous it would be? I'd also suggest what branleuse says, which is a politely put 'get a life'. Yes, easier said than done as a teenager - but she should now be passing the stage where appearance is so important.
her friends have different parents so some of them will have bigger boobs. Bet she isn't noticing the ones the same size as her. To risk a stroke for bigger bumps on her front is clearly insane. The people with the medical degrees are told 'first do no harm' and irregular periods are less of a risk than a stroke.
the pill is prescription only whether she pays for the doctor or not, so that idea won't work. Unless she wants to buy a dodgy internet import. Still a stupid thing to do.
Gosh I think you need to work on her self esteem. I'm flat chested (32A) and I love it! I hate wearing a bra and the fact that I don't need to is a good thing. I only wear during sport. Not wearing a bra means I'm less likely to get breast cancer. I'm 40+ and they are still pert/point the right direction and not at all saggy. My bigger breasted friends are jealous about this.
There are plenty of flat chested and proud people Kiera Knightly etc.
On the medical side I was on the combined pill and it made no difference whatsoever to my boob size. They did grow massively when I had my first DS and they were great fun for a bit but was glad when they returned to normal- I'm just happy the size they are.
I would never go against the GP recommendation and would encourage her to think of her health.
Plenty of men like small boobs too....
Has she been properly measured (using the MN method, not the outdated M&S "add inches" method)?
Tight round the ribcage for the band measurement, then loose round the fullest part of the bust to work out cup size
Dead curious what is flat-chested. Still AA cup, right?
Oops, posted prematurely there
She'll probably find that her "flat" chest is something like a 26D (which in terms of breast tissue is far less than a handful!).
Even if she can't get a bra in that size it'll boost her confidence knowing she's got a cup size...
When I was on the pill it did naff all for my boobs. I've gone up one cup size in 10 years to a B. I quite like my small boobs it means I could lie on my stomach in no discomfort before I got pregnant
I felt like your dd as a teen. Went on the pill for contraceptive purposes but secretly hoped I'd get bigger boobs from it too- made bugger all difference and made me a hormonal wreck!
Fwiw now love my tiny boobs. They've borne the brunt of two dc very well. As I became more confident in my 20s I stopped caring about bra size. It's tough as a teen though and boys can make some unkind remarks which can have an effect.
Thanks so much everyone for all your advice and comments. Believe me my approach has always been very much a 'get a life' one but it was just a comment she recently made that concerned me. I'm full of cliché s ' we always want what we've not got ' etc - hopefully her self consciousness about this will pass. I am a very ' don't suffer fools' person and believe me i find this extremely frustrating especially in light of the fact that she is a very pretty girl with loads going for her. I agree she may never get boobs - so what, i agree small are much better too - keira knightley etc. We have decided the combined pill is a defo no-no. It's not about boys either i don't think. Anyway great to hear youryour thoughts! thanks!
I had no boobs until I was 19. Now I am a GG cup. But remembering what I felt like, nothing makes you feel better.
I would be worried that she isn't listening to her GP though.
I completely understand what your daughter is going through because I’m going through the exact same thing. It’s horrible to live everyday being self conscious about such a big issue. And I know you want to help but there won’t be much you can say that will comfort her. I am a similar age to her and everyone knows mothers have to say nice things about their children so it won’t be comforting. She needs to overcome this herself and find parts about her she does like that outway the bad. I tried the pill it didn’t work and I got blood clots. I tried eating more, having more calcium everything and nothings worked. It’s so horribly sad but she needs to look at other girls, influencers that are small chested. Most super models have tiny boobs and there some of the most disirable women on the planet. I don’t know how much this has helped
I was self conscious about having small breasts as a teen (amongst other perceived flaws!). I used to "collect" other women who also had them (mentally I mean!) especially beautiful celebrities and found that comforting. Once I started having boyfriends and realising I was desirable I stopped worrying and got over it. I'm still small and skinny generally - can't wear low cut tops but I am used to that.
Also recommend using the MN method to measure for a bra. I found it difficult to get a cup size to fit (even AAs) until I did.