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DDs teen friendships please help

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chocoholic12345 Mon 22-Dec-14 14:42:20

My DD (15) has had problems with her friendship group as 3 of them have gone up to her and talking about committing suicide and revealing their plans on how to do it. they are also self harming in front of her. She is finding it very hard to deal with, she has talked to the school and her dad and I. Her friends have also sent her nasty texts and comments on Facebook because she told the school.

How do I support her through this?

Heyho111 Mon 22-Dec-14 15:17:25

This is not real self harming or feeling suicidal. People who self harm do it privately. They cover up the cuts. Suicidal thoughts are also kept to themselves.
This sounds like trying to be cool. It is almost fashionable at that age to self harm. It looks cool to look troubled. Emo's were very fashionable a couple of years ago. There look was to look miserable. Some teens need to go through this.
Your daughter should ignore it. Move to new friends.
You need to help your daughter see it for what it is.

chocoholic12345 Mon 22-Dec-14 19:26:29

Thanks, I thought it was attention seeking but it is always nice to have others advice. Explained this to y Daughter. But you know what teenagers are like thinking mum's don't know t all. Will show her your comment to back our chat.
Thank you or the reassurance.
Merry Christmas!

Boyswillbeboys12 Tue 23-Dec-14 09:11:30

Your daughter must be upset about this.
I have had a similar problem before I just ignored them and moved on to new friends.
They are showing off.
Their being stupid and they will regret it later in life when they try to get a job. They will be ashamed.
Good luck!

bigTillyMint Tue 23-Dec-14 11:34:08

They may not be attention seeking.

She did the right thing telling the school. Monitor the social media stuff and reassure her that she has been doing the right thing.

Alexia09 Fri 26-Dec-14 06:15:45

Same thing has happened with my daughter. She did the right thing and if her friends are going to be mad at her encourage her to show them she doesn't need them and she can find better friends that will treat her right ! Ignore them and if they say anything to her she needs to tell them I was trying to help but if you don't want me to I am just fine with finding new friends. Or you can kill them with kindness. smile
Goodluck! & Merry Cristmas ! ��

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