I have been reeling from a revelation that my son (13) has been smoking weed/green/pollen. I have no idea how long this has been going on, if he is addicted or why he is doing it. I am yet to confront him with it tomorrow when I see him for the first time after finding out. Him and a group of friends had arranged a party at a girls house on a Saturday. They arranged to steal alcohol from parents and to buy drugs. The house was wrecked, my son had gotten really drunk (and I assume stoned) and was sick on the carpet and apparently had a rage in the girl's mum's bedroom. Then he had fallen asleep, then they went to Tesco and lastly he went home for his dinner at his dad's at 6. We were completely unaware as he always seems 'normal' when he comes home from being out with friends. He admitted to have drunk 'a beer' at the party and been there, but his lack of involvement in the 'trouble' was a complete lie. This was revealed in a group facebook chat they had had before the party. He was non-chalantly arranging to bring weed and said things like 'the stuff we had the other day'... I feel sick to my stomach and unbelievably disappointed. I feel like it is a bad dream that I am just hoping to wake up from. Knee-jerk reaction is to not let him go out again apart from to school, order drug tests (as apparently it is available at school!!!) and make him pay for damages done to the house. He is not showing signs of taking responsibility yet, but I hope to God he can see that what he has done is seriously out of order. If not we have even more problems... Should I inform the school, perhaps anonymously, in order to ensure they are aware of the problem? Should I make him take drug tests randomly and say that if it is positive I will inform the police? What do I do? I have two younger children too, I worry that he will make them think it's okay to use drugs. Any help deeply appreciated.
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