1st heartbreak

[tlp67]

My soon to be 16 year old daughter is going through her first heartbreak. She has been devastated and so have I. I have seen her lose 11 pounds, and she has looked like this frail broken little girl. The young man in question is very immature and has not treated her the best. Yet she has had a hard time letting go. What can I do? I'm smart, well-educated and feel like I have failed her because I can't fix it. I am a single parent and she is my only one. We are very close and I think sometimes I get too involved. Help!

[Sparklingbrook]

Ooh no tlp. I have a teenage Ds but we haven't been through this yet, you must feel quite helpless.
I guess it's a time thing.

[tlp67]

Well it is extremely hard to watch...I don't wish it on anyone.

[Sparklingbrook]

Is she going to school ok? Ds1 is 15 and about to do his mocks.

[Heyho111]

You're doing everything you possibly can. It's awful seeing them suffering. The thing that she needs is to keep talking it out and have you there for hugs and biscuits. She will be back to her old self but it will take time.
Don't be sad , be glad she isn't with the numpty ;)

[Nocturne123]

I remember going through this myself all too vividly and my parents were great about it .

My mum told me if it's meant to be it will work itself out and was there to be a shoulder to cry on . All you can do is be supportive which you obviously are .

It'll take time but she'll be fine again and will look back on how much of an eejit he was .
For you , must be tough

[tlp67]

Thanks everyone....I'm the fixer and I know I can't fix this....

[CurlyWurlyCake]

I remember this myself and have spoken to my DD (12) about how it felt back then.

Time, love,support and more time is all that is needed.

[StarOnTheTree]

Time, love,support and more time is all that is needed.

I agree Curly

And get some Ben & Jerry's and a box of tissues OP. And if she's not eating properly, give her food that she liked when she was younger, tiny sandwiches with the crusts cut off, or cheese cubes on cocktail sticks, or whatever she would like. Look back through some photo albums and remember some of the good times before the bf was on the scene.

[bouffanteh]

We are several months past this happening and its still affecting my dd :( every time I think she's ok she relapses. It's horrific.
Can only be there for them, it's so painful to watch.