My ex husband has just sent my younger son home after a weekend with him with details of an air ticket to take him away in January including 3 days at the start of the school term. I have repeatedly asked him to consult with me on dates before booking tickets and asked him not to take the children away during term time.
This happened twice before. A year ago the school granted permission for my older son to miss a day of school at the end of half term - unfortunately it was the day before a GCSE exam and he got into Heathrow at midnight (home about 3am). When I complained to the school about them granting permission when it was not in my son's best interest to miss school the day before an exam, they told me that even though my son lives with me their father has the right to make this request and doesn't have to tell me if it is granted or not, nor does the school.
Earlier this year my ex took my older son out of school, did not ask permission and when my son messed up his exams and asked to retake the year the school told me that he could not stay on and repeat the year one factor being his poor attendance (in fact when with me he did not ever miss school except once when ill). I have no idea as to whether the school authorised that absence or not but I do know the request was only made 2 days beforehand so I suspect not.
I feel it disrespectful that my ex books holidays without asking me about dates first, but in general our relationship isn't too bad and I have to just let that go (pick my battles!). What I do object to is the school cutting me out even though the boys live with me, and also making decisions which I do not feel are in my children's best interests.
I read all the news coverage about parents taking children out of school with a sense of disbelief that I am battling to stop my children's school allowing them to have term time holidays - and failing.
Has anyone else had experience of this?
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stellarossa · 16/11/2014 20:09
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